Last night I slept so badly that I finally thought to myself, “Enough is enough!” I’m tired of the lies. I’m tired of the promises and all the waiting around. I’ve had enough sadness, enough guilt. I’m done riding this crazy train. I deserve a REAL relationship and a peaceful life. I need to be fully present for my children.” I just don’t know how to end this affair without losing my mind.

Last night I slept so badly that I finally thought to myself, “Enough is enough!” I’m tired of the lies. I’m tired of the promises and all the waiting around. I’ve had enough sadness, enough guilt. I’m done riding this crazy train. I deserve a REAL relationship and a peaceful life. I need to be fully present for my children.” I just don’t know how to end this affair without losing my mind.

This is the third time I have ended my affair. I told myself I would not go back. But late at night, when I am alone… I find that I want to text him, call him, or just reach out to him. I can’t seem to remember why I ended the affair. Suzie, what should I do in these moments of weakness and temptation to go back?

Ever since the affair ended, I’ve been left with a tremendous fear of being alone. I’m scared that I’ll never be loved again. I’ve lost faith in myself. My heart is heavy all the time. Suzie, how can I once again have a life after the affair and be the happy, lighthearted, carefree person I used to be?

What follows is a collection of some of the most frequently asked (and most important) questions I’ve gotten from affair partners over the years. You’ve probably asked yourself at least a few of these questions, and I’m here to help you answer them. Hopefully, you’ll read some words of insight and encouragement to help ease your suffering and confusion, and better understand your own situation.

Thousands of people before you have found ways of breaking free from the affair, and staying free for life. In this helpful article, I will tell you how they did it.

I have been trying to end the affair for months now. But every time I try, I just can’t seem to do it. He makes me feel so good. I just have a hard time believing that something that feels so good can be wrong. I know he’s the wrong man, but it feels so right. I know many people judge me, but if they knew what I was feeling…they wouldn’t want to walk away either. Can you help me understand what’s going on?

Dear Suzie, Please help! I have tried time and time again to end the affair. Each time I think it’s over, something happens. He calls or emails, and before I know it, I am right back where I started. What can I do to end it permanently once and for all?

5 questions sent in by affair partners who found themselves dealing with the harsh realities of pain & hurt after ending affairs…and needing to know how to better deal with the grief, heartache, guilt anger and disillusionment that so often accompanies the later stages of infidelity or an indiscretion. How do you survive an affair with a married man? Read my answers to others needing to heal the hurt after ending an affair.

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