end the affair
end the affair
"What if there was freedom and a more authentic life waiting for you on the other side of goodbye?"
Hi! I am Suzie Johnson, creator of How to End the Affair masterclass collection. On this page, I’m going to share with you how the program works, what it covers, what you can expect to learn, and what makes my approach uniquely different from anything else out there. I’ll show you how you can use this approach to help you break free from the affair and enjoy a more authentic life waiting for you on the other side of goodbye.
Don't Get Me Wrong...
I fully recognize that ending an affair is easier said than done. On one hand, you know the affair is inappropriate (no one needs to remind you of that). But on the other hand (somewhere between the conversations)the texts, the smiles, and flirting… some genuine feelings evolved. And I’m sure we both can agree that once your feelings got involved, everything changes.
In this upside-down world
Suddenly, you find yourself living in a topsy-turvy world…where everything is upside down. It’s a world where wrong starts to feel right, where temptations that were once easy to avoid become nearly impossible to resist, and where rules you would never even think of breaking, you find yourself breaking all the time. And the things you used to be able to depend on to guide you (like your faith, your principles, and even your conscience)are being drowned out by the exquisite emotions that are now being produced by the affair.
And there’s no doubt about it.
Affairs launch a potent array of exquisite emotions into the bloodstream. And I have often thought that if an affair were a cocktail, the recipe would probably look something like this:
Drinking this affair cocktail has one major drawback. It’s extremely addictive! When these emotions spike your nervous system, they can act like a narcotic on your brain, giving rise to the phenomena that I call the affair fog.
What is the affair fog?
The affair fog describes a state of mind where someone’s feelings are distorting their perception. Note: Being in the affair fog doesn’t make a person blind to what is happening around them. But it does impair their ability to perceive themselves and their situation accurately. And putting aside the negative threats to your wealth, health, and emotional well-being (having an affair can cause), in my opinion, the affair fog poses the biggest threat of all.
Here’s why I say that.
The most dangerous threat?
I consider the affair fog to be the most dangerous threat/side-effect of being in an affair for two important reasons:
Reason #1: The Affair Fog distorts reality. Causing what’s fake to seem real, making wrong actions appear right, and convincing strong people they are weak and are at the mercy of their feelings…when, of course, nothing could be further from the truth.
Reason #2: The Affair Fog is invisible to the person in it. People who are in the affair fog are often unaware that they are actually in the affair fog. This can make it extremely challenging for anyone to help them(people who can plainly see what’s happening).
I’m convinced that the affair fog is partly the reason why…
- Ending the affair is way harder than most think it will be.
- It takes so many attempts to break free and stay free of an affair.
- Some people go through the symptoms of withdrawal after ending the affair (a bit like a recovering drug addict might experience).
- So many affair partners live in turmoil… torn between wanting to end the affair and wanting to keep it going
- Just the thought of living without the special feelings produced by the affair strikes such dread in the minds of many affair partners.
- So many bad choices and risky behaviors are perpetrated in affairs.
- Many are willing to risk their family, career, and reputation to continue the affair relationship.
- The thought of not having the affair partner can strike such feelings of competitiveness in affair partners.
- Many can turn cold, act insensitive, or seem to take on another personality when they are in an affair.
- So many affair partners rationalize to themselves that it’s “okay” to be in the affair on one level (while not truly being ok with it at a deeper level).
I believe it’s because of the affair fog why you can’t force, bully or guilt yourself into ending the affair (even though there’s always a part of you that wants to).
Are you in the affair fog?
This is one of the first questions I ask my clients in a session: “Is it possible that you are in the affair fog?” The answers I have gotten are evenly split. About half of them said yes. (They believe they are in the affair fog). And they wanted my help to dissipate it. But the other half wasn’t really sure whether they were in the affair fog or not. Regardless of what their answer was, here’s what I would usually say to them:
What Doesn’t Matter
“It doesn’t matter if you are in the affair fog or not. It doesn’t even matter how you got into the affair in the first place. It doesn’t matter how a good person like you could find yourself in a situation like this. And it doesn’t matter how many times you’ve tried to break free and failed.”
What Does Matter
What matters is where you want to go from here. Because, right now, there are two doors before you: one door leads you towards freedom, and the other door leads you back into the affair. And my goal is to help you open the door to freedom.
But please note: It’s not my job to convince you of anything or to try to force you to do something you don’t already want to do.
You came to me for a reason.
And I imagine the reason you’re here has something to do with you wanting to end it. And the very fact that you are reading these words, suggests to me that there already exists inside of you, a part that truly wants to break free, and it’s that part that we will focus on from this point forward.
My approach is different
Just so you know…
I take a radically different approach than many others when it comes to helping people end affairs and move on with their lives. That’s true for a couple of key reasons:
(1) I don’t believe people’s feelings are either right or wrong, but I do believe we can have feelings directed towards inappropriate people.
(2) While it can feel like we are at the mercy of our feelings, the reality is this: We are all perfectly capable of setting ourselves free from any feeling no matter how intense.
My approach to helping you end the affair and break free will be threefold
To give a stronger voice to the reasons, logic, strategies, and insights that will dissipate the affair fog, and allow you to remember how powerful and capable you really are.
To provide positive reinforcement for the parts of you that already want to break free, and strengthen the parts that are already longing for a more authentic life.
To give you a structured and guided process to follow, so you can quietly (and gracefully) reverse your way out of any affair based relationship, regardless of how complicated or intense things have gotten.
the key question
Will my approach be helpful to you?
At this point, you have a key question to ask yourself: Would you benefit from having my professional expertise to help you effectively end the affair?
If you think you would benefit from having my help – then you’ll want to pay special attention to learning more about How to End the Affair masterclass collection, which gives you access to many of the same tools and strategies I use with my private clients – except you won’t need to make any appointments, see anybody or even have to leave the privacy of your home.
My Masterclass Collection
For Ending the Affair
(20 HD videos + audios + 2 Bonus Quiet 10 meditations)
2 HRS 34 MIN
1 HR 43 MIN
2 HRS 12 MIN
1 HR 48 MIN
1 HR 44 MIN
ABOUT THE COLLECTION
This masterclass collection is a compilation of my five most powerful masterclasses for any affair partner who is ready to gracefully and permanently end the affair bundled together… for one low price.
My How to End the Affair is the online version of the insights, strategies, and coaching I provide to my private coaching clients. In these 5 masterclasses, you’ll be learning the same strategies, techniques and processes I’ve personally developed (and have been using successfully for over 17 years) to guide affair partners from being afraid to let go, to let go gracefully; from being trapped in the cycle of circling back into the affair, to being able to finally break free and move to living a more authentic version of their lives.
I consider this masterclass collection to be…
One-part obstacle remover – Because of how they help you identify and remove the hidden obstacles that have kept you from truly breaking free (many of which you probably didn’t even know were causing issues)
And one-part GPS – Because of the step-by-step instructions it provides for reversing your way out of an affair relationship.
The ideal result?
After learning the strategies and insights I’m going to teach you, not only will you be able to break free from the affair and move on to a better life after, but you’ll also never need to buy a class like this ever again.
What You Won’t Find
I believe the things you don’t find are just as important as the things you do find. And so, with that in mind, here are a couple of things you won’t find in my masterclasses:
You won’t find any judgment about how you got here. (not important)
You won’t find me using any negative tactics, any guilt triggers, or any fear-based tactics to motivate you to break free… because if that worked, you would’ve already done it.
You won’t find generic or basic relationship advice.
Not JUST another “generic online course”
This is not another generic online course. Far from it. In fact, all of these masterclasses were created to effectively coach you to gracefully end affair relationships; which is very different than ending other types of relationships, and requires nuances, insights, and understandings you won’t find in general relationship advice books, blogs or online courses.
What You Will Find
When you enroll in this collection, here are some of the things you can expect to find:
You will find a proven process that works . Like an all-star team, every masterclass in this collection is jam-packed with my favorite strategies and techniques... not because I like them, but because they have been tested to work, and they continue to prove themselves over time.
You will find situation-specific help that truly makes a difference. In this collection, you are going to be given my specific advice, tools, approaches and techniques for dealing with this particular situation (many of which you won’t find anywhere else).
You will find positive mindset coaching which shifts the balance of power to your favor. The fact is, being the affair partner is a cultural taboo. In your search for help, you won't find very many resources like this program out there that offers the type of positive encouragement and supportive wisdom needed to help you shift the power back to your favor (and allow you to remember just how amazing & powerful you really are).
And the best part?
All of the masterclasses in this collection are online and available to help you right now. This means that not only are you going to able to benefit from my years of expertise and professional help, but you are going to be able to do it for a fraction of the price of private coaching and without having to leave the privacy and comfort of home.
END THE AFFAIR MASTERCLASS COLLECTION
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Will it help you?
Another great question.
I hand-crafted each masterclass in this End the Affair coaching collection to be uniquely helpful to anyone who’s found themselves in the uncomfortable position of having to end an extramarital affair they never should have begun in the first place.
Therefore, you will find it helpful…
- Regardless of whether you’re male or female
- Regardless of whether this is an emotional or physical affair
- Regardless of whether you’re still in the early stages, or it’s been going on for a while
- Regardless of how many times you already tried to end it
- Regardless of whether you’re a single affair partner or a married affair partner
- Regardless of the feelings are one-sided or run both ways
And it’s RIGHT FOR YOU IF…
#7. You know you should have ended it before now, but for some reason, you haven’t been able to.
#6. You already tried to end it, but somehow, you ended up back in it.
#5. You’ve been hesitating and dragging your feet because you fear the repercussions.
#4. The thought of living without them is so painful that it is preventing you from doing the right thing.
#3. You feel like you are being torn in two directions because one part of you wants to end the affair, but another part wants to keep it going.
#2. You’re getting tired of suppressing the guilt, covering up the tracks, and hiding all the dirt associated with having a secret life.
The #1 Sign This Is Right for You
Then enrolling in my End the Affair masterclass collection might be a crucial next step for you right now. Why? Because chances are there are certain things preventing you from breaking free and some of them might not be as obvious to you as they are to me. Don’t you owe it to yourself to find out what they are?
But in case you’re wondering...
Just in case you may be wondering whether or not this coaching collection is going to address your specific needs deal with the particulars that are unique to your situation… let’s take a look at some of the important issues I cover in each of these classes.
Important Issues Covered
in This Collection
(at a glance)
Issues covered in Masterclass #1: Graceful Exits
- How to have a graceful affair ending (rather than a painful one)
- How to end an affair when it’s someone you work with (and how to handle those awkward moments afterward)
- How to deal with any objections or resistance the other person might have to ending the affair
- How to defuse your affair partner revenge attempts
- How to tell the difference between a mind game and a real affair ending
- How to impose a permanent DNC (do not contact)
COVERED IN MASTERCLASS
Issues covered in Masterclass #2:Breaking Free from the Affair
- What to do if you are caught in a tug-of-war between the heart and the head (one wants to end it while the other doesn’t)
- What to do if courage begins to falter after you decide to end it
- How do you get past the terror produced by the fear of life without the affair partner
- What to say (and do) to end the affair
- How to effectively end all contact (without experiencing any lingering doubt, regret or guilt)
- How to handle the emotional detox and addiction-like withdrawals that sometimes show up after the affair
- How to reconcile the tug-of-war between what the heart wants and what the head says
COVERED IN MASTERCLASS
Issues covered in Masterclass #3: Dismantling Emotional Affairs
- What you should plan for (and what to expect) during the first 180 days after the affair
- Is there a way to somehow “transfer” all of those powerful feelings from the person you currently want back to the person you currently have? (Hint: Yes, there is.)
- What are the exact steps to reversing your way out of an emotional affair?
- What makes you vulnerable to emotional affairs in the first place?
- What to do if you’re a married person who is still carrying around leftover feelings or for the person you had an affair with
- What made you vulnerable to emotional affairs in the first place
- How to tell if what you’re experiencing is an emotional affair or true love
- Is there a way to stop these feelings without suppressing or ignoring them?
- How to handle the feelings of resentment at being deprived of what you secretly want Why you can have emotional affairs with people you don’t like, don’t know, were initially unattracted to and wouldn’t marry even if given a chance
- How to defuse unrequited feelings of desire, infatuation, and love
COVERED IN MASTERCLASS
Issues covered in Masterclass #4: Self-Forgiveness
- The exact steps to forgiving yourself for having an affair
- How to get past the guilt of having hurt the ones you love
- How to stop hating yourself for your past decisions
- How to escape the vicious cycle of self-loathing
- How to overcome your own need to suffer and punish yourself
- How to transform mistakes from obstacles to stepping-stones
COVERED IN MASTERCLASS
Issues covered in Masterclass #5: Dealing with Temptation
- How to correctly identify extramarital temptation and nip it in the bud
- What to do if you’ve struggled with monogamy in the past
- What to do when you sense extramarital attraction and desire
- How to handle the “free cheese”, “no strings attached”, and “something for nothing” cheating opportunities
- How to prevent flirting, texting and goofing around from turning into emotional affairs
- Which of your “repressed” sexual desires are making you vulnerable to extramarital temptation
COVERED IN MASTERCLASS
The bottom line?
If you’ve been struggling with any of the above…
I have absolute faith that you are going to greatly benefit from taking these masterclasses and learning my proven strategies for dealing with the myriad of issues and obstacles most people encounter when dealing with (and ending) any affair.
And for those still experiencing hesitation…
It might help to keep in mind…
While it may be true that dealing with the effects of this situation might be totally new to you, it’s not new to me. That’s because I’ve spent the past 18 years of my life teaching, coaching, guiding, and nudging people towards greater levels of authenticity after the affair. It’s that experience that allows me to offer you such a high level of expertise around this topic. It’s why I can share with you so many helpful nuances, tips, tools, techniques and strategies, and insights. (Insights that you will not found anywhere else).
What Can YOU Expect to Learn?
(Here's a short list of some of the things you'll learn)
The skills to reverse your way out any affair relationship (no matter how intense)
Why the end of the affair, letting go, and finding closure are not the same things (and how to make sure you achieve them all)
What to do if you’re caught up in the seductive web of an emotional affair
What to say (and do) to effectively end all contact (without guilt)
How to handle the emotional withdrawals and loneliness (especially at night)
How to grieve, purge and clean out your mental and emotional closet (Hint: You aren’t really free until you do this.)
3 easy fixes to handle the lures, triggers and temptations to go back
How to overcome the backlash of jealousy and sense of unfairness that come with letting go
How to "defang" the potency of the affair and the forbidden emotions that may have ensnared in the past
My time-tested 4-step formula that will turn down the emotional thermostat, so your feelings can go back to neutral (This is my number # 1 secret to letting go without losing.)
How (and where) to have the awkward break up conversation (I spill the beans on exactly what to say and how to say it.)
The exact steps for reversing your way out of an emotional affair (Hint: This is your chance to finally take your power back.)
My two most effective strategies for neutralizing the triggers and the memories that weaken your commitment to stay free
My master list of inner beliefs that you can use to create a “light switch” moment and free yourself from guilt and self-loathing
My #1 guilt-cancelling secret, that power to end suffering (You’ll want to learn how to do this just for the mood-brightening side effects.)
The hidden anatomy of emotional affairs (including what intensifies them and what makes them fade away)
How to design and enforce permanent DNC (do not contact) or low contact if it’s someone you work with
How to handle the emotional heartache that comes at the end of the affair (Hint: Pretending you didn't have feelings towards the affair partner isn't the way to make them go away.)
How to self-diagnose your own repressed desires that make you vulnerable to seduction (many of which you probably aren't even aware)
Why so many people end up staying in an affair long past its expiration date
6 simple rules for exiting the affair (includes what to say in your farewell conversation)
My crash course on the most common obstacles encountered in the first 90 days after breaking free and how to handle them
5 most powerful secrets to accepting forgiveness for your mistakes (the most effective means of curing unhappiness)
My plan for overcoming the terror and triggers that often show up in the early days after the end of the affair
My natural and healthy tips for healing the heartache, heartbreak, sadness, anger and yearning
My exact 12-step process for dismantling the emotional affair (follow these steps and your success is assured)
How to master your emotions (rather than be controlled by them), so you can have greater freedom and more enduring happiness
By the time you’re halfway through the program...
A lot of your anxieties about how you are going to survive the end of the affair will be greatly reduced (or totally eliminated). And by the time you’ve completed all five of your masterclasses, you will be experiencing a renewed sense of energy as the affair emotions that used to dominate your mind loosen its grip on you. And the fear of loss that used hold you hostage in the affair begins to dissipate like a fog evaporating in the warm morning sun… giving way for a new awareness. Listen. (This is important). If you get just one thing from reading this, then get this: Ending the affair is not about letting go as much as it is about moving forward.
This is so important for you to get (and own), that I’m going to say it one more time. (As you read the next line… pause…and let these words really sink in).
Ending the affair is not about letting go as much as it is about moving forward.
Ending the affair is
about moving forward
Ending the affair is not about letting go
as much as it is about moving forward.
Is it going to be easy?
Am I suggesting ending your affair without anxiety is going to be easy? No. I’m saying it’s going to be worth it!
AND JUST IN CASE…
Even though I don’t know you personally, I imagine you already have an idea whether or not my approach is the right fit for you. But just in case you’re still experiencing some doubt or hesitation…
Let me reassure you…
You are not alone. When you take my masterclasses, you’re joining a community of more than 11,500 past students who have successfully completed these masterclasses and used what they learned to reverse their way out of all kinds of sticky situations. You can read their reviews here.
Your investment is 100% protected. I stand by the strategies I teach and I back everything I do with my 100% find your masterclass helpful or your money-back” guarantee because I have seen them work for countless others. And I have faith they will be extremely helpful to you. Of course, you don’t know that yet. (How could you?) So you have my word. If you don’t find my masterclasses helpful to you, then your money is promptly returned (no hassle, no guilt, no problem).
Well, that just about covers it.
I have a feeling that since you have read all the way up to this point, you now have all the information you need to decide if enrolling in my End the Affair masterclass collection is right for you. But all I can do is show you the door to freedom. Now, it’s up to you to take the next step and walk through it.
My Hopes & Expectations For You
So, here’s my overall hopes and expectations for you.
You decide to End the Affair and you shift your focus from what you’re going to be losing and you start getting excited about what you’ll be gaining on the other side of goodbye.
By going through these masterclasses, I hope to be able to remind you why ending an affair is not a sacrifice you have to make. It’s a privilege you get to experience.
What is this privilege I’m referring to?
You have the right to choose again.
It’s your right as a human being to change your mind.
It’s your privilege to choose again.
You have permission to discard what is not working for you; thereby, changing the direction of your life.
And I intend to help you reawaken the memory of how powerful you really are, so you can break free without anxiety and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that ending the affair and moving on to living a life of greater authenticity is going to be one of those great decisions you’ll forever be grateful you made.
And what’s more?
I fully expect to be able to coach you so thoroughly through the end of the affair situation, that you’ll no longer be scared… because you’ve been fully prepared, to deal with whatever emerges.
And if the hopes and expectations I have for you, match the ones you have for yourself, then I invite you to enroll in my End the Affair masterclass collection and find out for yourself what a difference it can make to have an expert by your side helping you to navigate past the obstacles, hesitations and anxieties that have been holding you back from breaking free, so you can get excited about the more authentic life waiting for you on the other side of goodbye.
I look forward to having you in class.
Until we speak again…
Remember, Love Wins!
I LOOK FORWARD TO
TO HAVING YOU IN CLASS
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
ABOUT MY ETA MASTERCLASS COLLECTION
What Format Are The Courses?
After you enroll, we will send you your login and password via email. You can also click on the login at the top right corner of the pages on GoAskSuzie.com or go to goasksuzie.teachable.com/sign in and then use your email and password to log in.
What Payments Are Accepted?
You can use any major credit card. (Visa, MasterCard, American Express or Discover) You can also use PayPal. Just select PayPal as your option during your secure checkout.
What Shows Up On My Credit Card Statement?
Suzie understands how sensitive this topic is. Your trust and your privacy is our highest priority. (It really is.)
1. Any and all charges on your credit card will simply reflect the initials MWI.
2. There is absolutely no reference to this website or Suzie.
3. You can also use your PayPal account to make your payment.
If you’re still concerned… I have heard of some students who purchased a debit card. These are just a few of the ways, we are protecting your privacy and identity.
Is There A Money Back Guarantee?
Yes! We know you will love your classes and find them to be very helpful during your time of need. However, If after completing the first class, you are unsatisfied for any reason, then please let us know and we’ll do everything we can to make things right, up to and including giving you a full refund.
What If I Have Trouble Accessing Or Taking The Course?
It’s so important to us for you to have a seamless learning and healing experience. It might just be a technical glitch. If you log out and then log back in, that might resolve your issue.
But if that doesn’t work… Then please reach out to us immediately. We will check your account from our side and see what’s going on. But rest assured, we will get you back up and running ASAP.
You can contact us via Live Chat by clicking on the little orange circle in the lower right hand corner of any page on the site. If we are offline, we will get your message and respond the next business day (or sooner).
And we answer the phone. So if you want to call us, that’s fine too. Our support number is 214-224-0460.
MY TIPS FOR
GETTING THE MOST OUT OF MY END THE AFFAIR MASTERCLASS COLLECTION
1. Follow my recommended viewing order.
My End the Affair collection is made of 5 HD masterclasses. To get the most out of the process, I suggest you follow my recommended viewing order for all five classes.
2. Listening with headphones helps.
A lot of my students prefer it, especially if you’re doing the collection on your phone or iPad.
3. Download and listen to only the audio version.
Many of my students treat their masterclasses like podcast episodes: downloading the audio files of their classes and relistening to them again and again (especially at moments when temptation is strong).
4. Taking notes makes a difference.
Many of my clients get a notebook especially for taking notes. It will not only help you remember, but it will also give you something to refer back to.
5. Do the worksheets and exercises.
The good news is that, you’re always in control of your decisions. You can follow my suggestions, or you can discard them and remain exactly the way you are. However, I do believe that experience is the real teacher… not words. So, I include worksheets, thought experiments, assignments, recommended books, movies, as well as TED Talks. I strongly recommend you do them… if you want to get the most out of these programs.
And here’s one final (optional) tip:
6. Share the benefits.
If you find something helpful in this course, I would ask that you be willing to share it. The more specific you can be, the better for all concerned. And here’s why: Testimonials that come from real people can make a real difference in someone’s mind, because as you, of all people, should know, being the affair partner is often an embarrassing role to play. This is why a testimonial from a real person like you, who’s going through the same thing, goes a long way in inspiring hope and lowering fear. And so, I thank you in advance for being willing to share what’s working for you. And if you’re worried about your privacy, please don’t. We always change the names and location to protect our clients.