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I recently read about the woman whose husband had an “emotional affair”
I recently read about the woman whose husband had an "emotional affair" and Suzie's response which was brilliant. I experienced the same thing - only the other woman involved CALLED me - made up events/locations - until finally, we had to get a harassment order against her. Men need to know when to say "Enough is Enough". Think about what could or will happen to your family. Very scary situation for me and could have been for our children!
Suzie WILL help you
For all of the men out there who have stumbled across these words because you are thinking of having an affair or are in one now, this isn’t just by chance. You are here because you are supposed to be. If you love your wife and yourself and your family like I do, stop and think about what is real in your life and what you really want. It may be that you don’t know right now and that is okay but I promise you that if you talk to Suzie just once, you will have a different opinion about your wife and yourself and your life! There is a world of things that make us think we have to be like or act like someone or something else but if you are ever going to be a man of independence and know your place in your world, educate yourself and find yourself. You will find honesty and forgiveness in yourself, your wife and even others. The truth is hard but when you live transparently, you are truly a free soul and the best friend and husband. The day my wife learned the truth about my affair was the best...
I just ended an affair with a married man
Thank you for this. I just ended an affair with a married man who I really at a point believed loved me and told me he was going to leave his marriage. But when it came to times I needed real results, he said he can't give me answers at this time. So I knew I had to leave. It lasted 7 months. But I before that, we were friends for over 10 years and it hurts. I ended it a few days ago and I was looking for support of course. This is one of the best things I've read. So I just want to say thank you.
For the first time in 3 months, I was able to get a good night sleep
Three months ago, I had learned that my husband was and still is having an affair. I was absolutely devastated, hurt, angry and could not get over the thoughts of being betrayed and constantly lied to by the one person in my life who I trusted more than anyone else in the world. I could not sleep, eat and as a result, lost 12 pounds. I had constant nightmares of my husband and his mistress. I was stuck between a rock and a hard place and felt that I had no place to go. The negative vibes, crying, nagging and bad energy that I unintentionally allowed to surface drove my husband and me further apart. We sought the help of numerous online programs, books, 1 coach, 1 hypnotist and 3 counselors but found ourselves stagnant and not getting anywhere. Recently, I came across the Goasksuzie website and ordered the home study course for betrayed partners. I went through it twice in its entirety. After the second time, I felt an honest calming feeling in my stomach. I realized that it was not the affair itself that brought all this suffering to me but MY image that I attached to the...
It’s like I knew you!
Suzie, Thank you so much for your time and giving me the tools for my journey to neutral and internal peace. I'm so grateful for the universe for putting you in my path of healing. What amazed me the most was how quickly you not only understood me and my situation but how my mind was processing everything which then you were able to give me exactly what I needed. You were so easy to talk to as well. It's like I knew you! I went back to work after 5 weeks of being home and am not only putting the health issue behind me but also the situation that happened. It's like starting fresh with a new perspective on life. Please keep doing what you're doing, because you're absolutely amazing and are helping so many people like me who have no where else to go. I wish you and your family success, happiness and a lifetime of Love! With Deepest Gratitude
Don’t think our relationship has ever been this good
I can’t believe it’s been one year since the “trauma” (not sure what to even call it). I had been uneasy and anxious (for reasons not well understood by me) for the D-Day. But when Aug 26th came, I had forgotten it was the 26th until I saw the calendar and then I recalled all of the emotions and the events and feelings of that day one year ago. I immediately decided to have it be a celebration inside of me and nothing else — I celebrated the witch being gone from the office and gone from our lives. I also celebrate Kevin and our drastically improved relationship. We are learning to more closely listen to the other person, to partner, to have more fun, to be more open and talk about our feelings, be more understanding and loving. We are learning the importance of making the other person feel loved and special and how important it is to show daily affection and admiration and appreciation for the other. I am SOO SOO SOO thankful for Brad initially scheduling us and for Suzie’s help — truly what we needed and we are so grateful to have Suzie as a valuable...
Our goal is to make this the
Suzie's Marriage Rehab home study program has been great. So many insights that we would have not thought of on our own. Thank you for having these out there to help us along this journey. Our goal is to make this the "best worst thing" that has ever happened to us and with the help of the program, I see no reason why it won't be. Thanks again.
My prayer is that our testimonial would encourage others on this journey
I am so impressed with your quick response any time I’ve reached out to you. When my wife and I get through all the mess she’s created (and I believe we will) I would love to explore ways to help you get this information out to others in need. I found the site via a Google search and told my wife about it. She agreed to purchase your home study program for couples, only because I asked her to do so. She felt like she was in no position to argue against the purchase. However, once she began to play the home study sessions related to the “wayward partner” she found the information there life-changing. She told me a couple of days ago that it seems every other sentence or two contains something of great value for her. I, too, have found the sessions in the Marriage Rehab course to be a tremendous help. I just finished going through the “Healing the Hurt You Didn’t Deserve” for about the 10th time. My wife and I are going away this weekend. I’ve really struggled with anger these last couple of days so reviewing the “Healing the Hurt…” program this morning has...
Your website has been a saving grace for me
I have been married for 7 years. During this time I have had proof of my husband flirting on social media. Recently my intuition was telling me something is not right. So I investigated and managed to get a recording of him telling someone he missed them & was thinking of them. This revelation has torn my world apart... but what hurts most is that I have confronted my husband without the recordings & he refuses to admit & says to show him the proof. His phone is locked & on silent & recently he looked through mine to see if he found the proof. Your website has been a saving grace for me. Before I would have argued, but I am drawing strength & wisdom from your website and I have asked him to leave. He has packed his clothes & put them in garage but he hasn't moved. I have purchased your betrayed partner home study. I have also sent links for the wayward rehab course to my husband. I feel like your website and programs are truly heaven sent. It's okay to share my recommendation on your website. Thank you so much for taking the time to...
It’s truly a gift from God
Thank you, also, for creating the website. It's truly a gift from God and your content is unparalleled.
I have listened to “Forgiving Infidelity and Releasing Pain” 15 times.
Suzie, I have gone through your Forgiving Infidelity and Releasing Pain session at least 15 times. It has really helped me. I want to talk about my situation, and about the best way to convey forgiveness. I almost don't know if my wife would believe me if I told her face-to-face. I think the best way would be face-to-face.
Without Suzie’s help, we would have gone our separate ways
To the others out there: What can I say? My life was in shambles and the slew of bad choices I had made left me empty and miserable. In trying to save my marriage, I came upon Suzie on the web, and it was as if someone had left a light on in the dark. Desperate for any help. I booked a 60-minute call. Just in that first hour, I knew I found the help my wife and I needed. It was if she knew me. And her frankness and compassion made me feel at ease and open. More so, her philosophy and knowledge was unparalleled, I led my wife to her, and both of us got this feeling, not of a counselor, but of a friend. Suzie helped us down the road that would save our marriage. And I say help, not LEAD!!! Because, while she is there for you with knowledge and understanding, it is you that must do the work. The work is the key. And all I can say is that she will definitely help you get the answers you are looking for. Trust her and her method, everything she does has a reason, everything there...
We have been attending counseling for the last 4 weeks
I discovered my husband was having an affair about 8 weeks ago we are committed to making our marriage work. We have been attending counseling for the last 4 weeks but we are getting more out of Suzie's articles and her home study programs than we have been with the counseling. We really appreciate how much she puts into all of her work. Thank you. This has been a Godsend for us
Thanks to you guys for responding so quickly all the time
Thanks to you guys for responding so quickly all the time. You really do have a great approach and cannot tell you how much it is appreciated.
Extremely helpful so far
My husband and I have found GoAskSuzie to be extremely helpful so far. I would (and have) recommended this site to all my friends who are having these types of issues. Thank you!
I feel much better
Suzie was absolutely wonderful. She made me realize things about myself that I hadn't noticed. I really feel much better! 🙂
Self-respect is restored and forgiveness is on the horizon
Hi Suzie! Thank you for your website. I am learning a lot and your articles give me peace of mind and re-kindle the Love in my heart. Suzie if you were in front of me I would hug you tight. So please pretend, receive my hug of thanks. I appreciate your approach. It makes every wounded psyche back to wholeness. Self respect is restored and forgiveness is on the horizon. Thank you again and your articles, for a lack of the better word right now, is to me, the best I've read. I still go back to your articles every day and every moment I get . Thank you so much. God bless you. Know that you are helping a lot of people, wounded or not. Hope to meet you in the future.
Your words have given me so much hope
My name is Christine and I've been with my high school sweetheart for nine years. We got pregnant young and have had many challenges since. Both my husband and I come from broken families and have had little to no support with anything at all. I've had no one to turn to for advice. Your words have given me so much hope for the future. I recently told him I wasn't in love with him and feel terrible for it. I know our love is still there. Once again thank you for the work that you do I will continue to read your articles and remind myself who I can become. Thanks so much!
Nothing has been as helpful as Suzie’s sessions
We want to share our story and let people know that Suzie's coaching and courses have been very very helpful to both of us. Twenty-three years of marriage to an exec who had a 3 1/2 year affair with a much younger woman at work. He wanted out after 2 years but thought I'd leave him if I found out so she manipulated him by saying she'd tell me and our children. She said she'd leave him alone if he'd give her a child, which he did (sounds ridiculous when spoken aloud). She told me in December via a text which she denied and then proceeded to tell our children two weeks later. My daughter had an amazing relationship with her father and she now can barely speak to him she's so angry. I am trying to get her to listen too but so far she is unwilling. I agreed to stay with my husband and I was stuck in a roller coaster of pain. He has done everything right since the minute I found out and I knew if I could let go of the pain we would have a very happy future, easier said than done. After listening...
Your advice is so helpful to me
Good morning Suzie! It's funny but by reading so much on your site and going through the Marriage Rehab course, I feel like I already know you, and I want to tell you that your advice is so helpful to me. If not for finding your site I would have not made the progress I have made since finding out about my husbands affair. He feels the same way. Truly, we thank you for all that you do.
Love and perseverance can win over and over again
Dear Suzie, Just a quick note before heading to sleep to tell you HOW FABULOUS YOU ARE! WooooooOooooooW! Chapeau bas (in french Heads up) for your stunning approach... I am speechless with admiration! And YES today you made me believe again that Love and Perseverance can win over and over again! Words fail to thank you enough... Gratefully x 10000000000
My husband has listened to the first one “How to Survive Her Affair” twice now
Thank you! I have sailed through ALL of the coaching sessions... and they are truly amazing for healing. I can't believe that I did what I did, and Suzie makes me feel human. Although I can't pinpoint the why I did it, which my husband really wants to know... "it just happened," unfortunately. We love each other so much and this just hurts. And yes, I knew in my gut and everything about me said that it was so wrong and yet I succumbed. My husband has listened to the first one How to Survive Her Affair twice now. He can relate to the insights that Suzie speaks about of how the betrayed must feel. I think it makes him feel somewhat normal too.
I looked at her and I said “I forgive you.”
Suzie, There is a small chart I copied into my journal off of your website at the beginning of this dark journey. It contains 3 stages. I can't tell you how many times I have looked at that chart asking myself when I would get to stage 3- Learning and Acceptance? It seemed like I would never truly get there. In an odd twist of fate, it was my trip to CA that gave me the final push. The first week, of my two-week trip proved to be unpleasant and challenging at best. I wrestled my ego what seemed like minute-by-minute. It was mentally exhausting. And it was inside of one of the most impulsive things I have ever done that I found peace. Faced with having lived in CA for 10 years and never taking the opportunity to go see the Golden Gate Bridge, I made the decision to go at 5:00 pm Saturday night. As I made it to my destination and I stood on a hilltop staring over the Bay area with the Golden Gate Bridge in my foresight (a life long dream of mine), I embraced that moment and felt so courageous for taking the opportunity...
The victim vs. survivor thought process is really resonating with me now
This is the perfect stepping stone on my path to recovery. I truly sense it in my spirit. The victim vs. survivor thought process is really resonating with me now. I have been trying to move forward after the ordeal but seemingly am in a holding pattern. The quick response leads me to believe you genuinely care. This is so needed at the moment. Friends of mine feel empathy but do not understand what going through this entails. Thanks again!
REAL Love DOES win
I am so grateful for this website!!! I just went through an emotional affair that caused me a lot of heartache, tears, and guilt. When I was finally ready to come out of denial, this site helped me so much! My therapist was not even close in helping as much as this site. I was finally "willing" to let go and that was my light bulb moment. I know I have strong will power and within a day I feel like a new person. Free from all of the angst and anxiety I felt while going through the affair. Realizing that my 16 year marriage is real love, even if it's not as exciting and "fun" (or so I thought, it really was not that fun going thru this!), we have a strong commitment, history, support, children, and longevity that far surpasses anything the affair could offer. I would encourage anyone going through an emotional affair to pore over Suzi's articles and face the reality of the situation. I had to read them several times to make it sink in. I had convinced myself that this was a "real" relationship and if we could just be together my life would...
You truly are a phenomenal person and coach
Hi Suzie! I wanted to thank you so very much for our call last Tuesday. It REALLY was helpful in a number of ways. You just don’t know. Thank you again for all that you do. Our sessions have been more valuable than I can express. You truly are a phenomenal person and coach. (and that's from me and Matthew)
We would not be where we are in our relationship without her guidance
My name is Alison and my husband had an affair for 4 months. I was totally devastated and felt my whole world was destroyed. I decided to check the internet for help and found Suzie's website. I loved the fact that just her website that was free, was so very informative. It truly was a wealth of information and answered a lot of questions that I had, and validated feelings that I was having. My husband found it also very helpful for himself. I thought what the heck, I would try one session with Suzie. Well, our phone meeting with Suzie was truly amazing. We were offered 12 week coaching plan and found out about the cost. We decided this was something that would be incredibly helpful in our relationship and that would be priceless. We decided that we wanted to be together and wanted to do whatever it took to have more of Suzie's help. We have completed the 12 weeks and our relationship is in a state that I love. I am grateful for the tools that I have learned to apply to my daily living in every aspect of my life. I have learned to love, be...
He is following all of your advice
First, let me start out by thanking you for your wonderful website and all of your helpful, healing programs. You have been a daily companion of mine for several months now. To give you a little background on our situation, my husband and I have been married 25 years. I discovered about 6 months ago that he was having an affair with a woman from work. I had absolutely no idea anything was even wrong. It had been going on for about two months when I found out. To say I’m devastated would truly be an understatement. Like one of the women you refer to in your programs, we were the couple everyone referred to as “the happy couple.” He is following all of your advice. He ordered the complete home study library when we found your website. He is remorseful, and being transparent and he’s convinced he will never do anything like this again. I have moments where I believe him and I can see a strong, happy future together and then something triggers for me and I don’t have any idea if he’s being real with me or not and I completely break down. I didn’t have any...
I woke to the best morning I have had in well over a year
Suzie, Thank you, thank you, thank you. I woke to the best morning I have had in well over a year. We have done such amazing work over the last 2 days. I can't wait for day 3. Your insight, knowledge and personality, along with your tools you have provided me, have shortened a very difficult journey. Thank you for the bonus... a new perspective in dealing with my relationship with my daughter.
Suzie is amazing
Suzie is amazing. If she can't get through to someone, I don't think anyone can.
I broke free about a month ago
Hi Suzie, Your site has been "extremely helpful" to me and I'm forever grateful for this service. I am married and had an affair with my "good friend"'s boyfriend (now fiancé) on and off for several years now. I always struggled with the guilt and betraying my friend. I attempted numerous times to end the affair only to run back into his arms. After reading the articles on your site and going through your End of the Affair program (twice), I broke free about a month ago. Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for having these resources available
Thank you so much for having these resources available. Words cannot express how much I thank you for sharing your knowledge. Your advice has helped me not only to walk away from my illicit relationship but also to understand the reasons and rationalizations that kept me there. Suzie's insights have also helped me to begin to work on my marriage and realize the answer to my problems cannot be found in another relationship. I don't know what you went through personally to create this amazing company, but you have been a blessing to me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
The End of the Affair was a God-send
The End of the Affair was a God-send! It was VERY helpful. Love the Quiet 10 program. It's helping me sleep better. I felt the way the program was outlined was helpful for me in that it started off identifying the emotional affair and how damaging and disruptive it still is even though it is in the mind. Also, realizing how I was vulnerable to this. I thought also the steps to overcome this were awesome too - especially kicking this person out of my mind and raising the rent! I am going to review the program a few more times. I have ALOT of inner work to do. I have been friends with this man in my life for 25 years! The last year it did cross the line. Thanks so much for you help!
Please let Suzie know that she has changed my life completely
Please let Suzie know that she has changed my life completely. I have listened so many times that I can recite every single part word by word. Thanks so much! It has opened up a different world to me. In two weeks, I have already opened up two business that were on the back burner (due to the idiotic fantasies in my head). I do hope that other people can listen, I have tried to talk to other friends about it, but they are on denial. I hope it is not too late. God Bless and thanks.
Your articles and blog have helped me tremendously
Suzie, I first want to say thank you ever so much! Your articles and blog have helped me tremendously, and I think I have read every single word you have written whether it is for the wayward spouse, the affair partner or the betrayed spouse. I identify with the former two, because I have been cheating on my husband but it has been three months now since I broke free from the affair. I hope you will be writing more articles soon, because I treasure your words of advice and read them over and over again. Everything you say makes so much sense. I can't explain to you how much it helps me, especially on nights like tonight when I find myself longing for the satisfaction and 'love' I used to get from my affair partner. I use your blog posts to steer me back and remind myself why I should NOT make contact and why I should snap out of it. Anyway, that's all. Looking forward to reading more of your gems soon 🙂 Thanks again!
It’s the first time in a long time I feel secure with myself and our relationship
Thank you so much for all you’ve done for us. I really don’t know if we could have gotten through these tough times without you and your programs. Brooke has been loving and nice to me and there have been no awkward discussions about the past. We are communicating much better at work and at home. She deserves a lot of praise. I’ve tried to do so all week. I know there’s still work to do, but I’m ready for it. It’s the first time in a long time I feel secure with myself and our relationship and it really feels like I’m living more in the moment and not so much in the past or future. I can’t say thank you enough... coach. 🙂 As Brooke has said before, you truly are our angel. Have a great weekend!