Here’s what happens:
The reality of what you’re actually doing (sneaking around, covering up, hiding, waiting around, and enabling another person’s deception), and the fact that you’ve allowed yourself to become an accessory to the possible destruction of someone else’s life… becomes glaringly obvious.
This tells you that the belief in “specialness” acts like a blindfold impairing your judgment and your ability to see the true consequences of your actions clearly.
It’s time to look at this without the blindfolds.
What you have isn’t special. If it were, it wouldn’t be an affair. It wouldn’t have a dark side. It wouldn’t need secrecy, lies, and deceit to keep it going. Instead, it would be a warm, loving, honest, open, and truly life-enhancing relationship… serving the highest good of all involved.
Here’s another thing you would recognize:
Nobody in their right mind delays their own happiness for very long. Think about this with me. If he knew beyond the shadow of a doubt that being with you in a legitimate relationship would make him happy, do you think for a second he would hesitate? I don’t believe he would.
The fact is, he isn’t sure.
I believe his hesitation is a big red flag.
It points to the fact that you’re not his first choice. You’re not his only option. You’re not the one he can’t live without. This one glaring fact should be all you need to feel good about walking away and never looking back.
End it now.
This is YOUR life, and you deserve to be playing the leading lady, not just some supporting role.
Here’s what we know:
With the belief that the affair is unique, special and “destined to be”… the affair continues.
But what happens when we don’t have those types of beliefs?
Until we speak again…
Remember… Love Wins!
P.S. Here are 3 more ways I can help you break-free and have the life and love you deserve: