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The sessions helped tremendously to better manage the negative thoughts
Good Morning, Thank you so much for this, I can't remember the last time someone did something as nice as this for me. I'm so lost, with the aftermath of this. I wish I had someone without judgment to talk to. I don't have any friends I feel comfortable enough to talk with about what happened... only family, and they are biased to my situation and frankly tired of hearing about it. They either want me to move on or forgive! That simple. I needed help in forgiving and moving forward to save my relationship. I was completely upside down on my way of thinking. Suzie's sessions on forgiveness and healing have helped tremendously - to better manage the negative thoughts that run through my head. Warmest Regards! "Change your thoughts and you change your world. " ~Norman Vincent Peale
So grateful you recommended the 90-minute session with Suzie
I'm so grateful you recommended the 90-minute session with Suzie. We actually ended up going a little overtime which I really really appreciated. I think I got a lot out of this session. Suzie is magic. Her Wayward Rehab course continues to be very helpful as well. Thank you!! There will be a lot of work and challenges coming up to me in the next months but I am ready to face them. Again I'm very glad I made the choice to consult with Suzie. Please let her know that I'm very grateful for her insight and advice. Hope you guys have a great weekend. (it's labour day weekend up here in Canada)
After reading your blog, I promised myself not to remain a victim
Thank you Suzie... my husband cheated on me for 4 long years. I knew I saw the red flags but I didn't realize there was such a term as "emotional affair". I thought it was just a strong physical attraction and it will go away. When I felt uncomfortable about the situation, I called the other woman and asked her why she is ruining my marriage. I asked my husband what I have done to deserve this? They finally stopped calling and seeing each other for a little more than a year now. I am still hurting. I still feel betrayed. I am now in shock, knowing that it was a full blown emotional affair. I feel so empty, but after reading your blog, I promised myself not to remain a victim; I will work on being the survivor. I want to go straight, not drive around in circles. You have been a great help. It's like you were talking to me directly. I was not reading, I was listening to you. Thank you for giving me the choices and widening my field of vision.
I promise you that if you talk to Suzie just once, you will have a different opinion about your wife and yourself and your life!
For all of the men out there who have stumbled across these words because you are thinking of having an affair or are in one now, this isn’t just by chance. You are here because you are supposed to be. If you love your wife and yourself and your family like I do, stop and think about what is real in your life and what you really want. It may be that you don’t know right now and that is okay, but I promise you that if you talk to Suzie just once, you will have a different opinion about your wife and yourself and your life! There is a world of things that make us think we have to be like or act like someone or something else but if you are ever going to be a man of independence and know your place in your world, educate yourself and find yourself. You will find honesty and forgiveness in yourself, your wife and even others. The truth is hard but when you live transparently, you are truly a free soul and the best friend and husband. The day my wife learned the truth about my affair was the best...
We look forward to completing the all the healing and forgiving sessions
Yes, please upgrade me
Wow, this is the most amazing customer service! Yes, please upgrade me. Thank you for your help and wonderful service.
Up until now we have muddled our way through counseling
Thanks so much Suzie. We have found your couples course we have reviewed so far to be VERY helpful and a "breath of fresh air" for both of us as we continue to try and figure out the best way to work through this. Up until now we have muddled our way through counseling, books, etc. and just have not seemed to be able to find a comprehensive approach that has helped make much of a difference for us so far. Finally, we have a sense of hope and direction. Thank you!
Nothing has been as helpful as Suzie’s sessions
We want to share our story and let people know that Suzie's coaching and courses have been very very helpful to both of us. Twenty-three years of marriage to an exec who had a 3 1/2 year affair with a much younger woman at work. He wanted out after 2 years but thought I'd leave him if I found out so she manipulated him by saying she'd tell me and our children. She said she'd leave him alone if he'd give her a child, which he did (sounds ridiculous when spoken aloud). She told me in December via a text which she denied and then proceeded to tell our children two weeks later. My daughter had an amazing relationship with her father and she now can barely speak to him she's so angry. I am trying to get her to listen too but so far she is unwilling. I agreed to stay with my husband and I was stuck in a roller coaster of pain. He has done everything right since the minute I found out and I knew if I could let go of the pain we would have a very happy future, easier said than done. After listening...
Suzie saved me when I was completely hopeless and helpless
I recently purchased your Wayward Rehab home study and have been listening to Suzie. She has been an incredible source of help and support. I am so thankful for her. Suzie saved me when I was completely hopeless and helpless. I now feel like I can do this and there is a light at the end of this tunnel. I not only feel like I can do it, I now know how. Thank you. My purchase was smooth and the programs easy to access.
Healing the Hurt has made a huge impact on my life
Dear Suzie, Thank you so much for all your hard work. I finally finished listening to all of Healing the Hurt last night. This has made a huge impact on my life. Especially the part on "Ego"... wow! Talk about looking in the mirror. Sometimes it's hard to see the real person you are. Positive changes are being made in my life. Again, thank you!
Without Suzie’s help, we would have gone our separate ways
To the others out there: What can I say? My life was in shambles and the slew of bad choices I had made left me empty and miserable. In trying to save my marriage, I came upon Suzie on the web, and it was as if someone had left a light on in the dark. Desperate for any help. I booked a 60-minute call. Just in that first hour, I knew I found the help my wife and I needed. It was if she knew me. And her frankness and compassion made me feel at ease and open. More so, her philosophy and knowledge was unparalleled, I led my wife to her, and both of us got this feeling, not of a counselor, but of a friend. Suzie helped us down the road that would save our marriage. And I say help, not LEAD!!! Because, while she is there for you with knowledge and understanding, it is you that must do the work. The work is the key. And all I can say is that she will definitely help you get the answers you are looking for. Trust her and her method, everything she does has a reason, everything there...
You truly are a phenomenal person and coach
Hi Suzie! I wanted to thank you so very much for our call last Tuesday. It REALLY was helpful in a number of ways. You just don’t know. Thank you again for all that you do. Our sessions have been more valuable than I can express. You truly are a phenomenal person and coach. (and that's from me and Matthew)
My husband and I give Suzie credit for helping save our marriage
My husband and I have gone through some together and I've done others alone... How To Infidelity-Proof Your Marriage, Standing in the Storm, How to Break Free from the Affair, Infidelity Recovery 101. Honestly, they are all so good...we are amazed. We talk about Suzie like she's a friend or member of our family...first name basis! She has such wisdom. I find myself just laughing, shaking my head at times, amazed by her insight. Probably my favorites right now are How to Infidelity-Proof Your Marriage and How to Break Free. We are not stopping there though 🙂 As to why those both contain such poignant insights and very specific tips and 'to-dos'. I also find her compassionate approach to dealing with the Wayward partner so helpful, but she doesn't coddle. There is just so little out there to help those on that side. She respects the power of the affair in a way that helps you put it into perspective and then really grasp how to get out. There's more I could say. But my husband and I give Suzie credit for helping save our marriage.
The program has been my lifeline
Thank you so much! The program has been my lifeline and already has helped tremendously. Can't wait for my husband to begin! Thanks much!
REAL Love DOES win
I am so grateful for this website!!! I just went through an emotional affair that caused me a lot of heartache, tears, and guilt. When I was finally ready to come out of denial, this site helped me so much! My therapist was not even close in helping as much as this site. I was finally "willing" to let go and that was my light bulb moment. I know I have strong will power and within a day I feel like a new person. Free from all of the angst and anxiety I felt while going through the affair. Realizing that my 16 year marriage is real love, even if it's not as exciting and "fun" (or so I thought, it really was not that fun going thru this!), we have a strong commitment, history, support, children, and longevity that far surpasses anything the affair could offer. I would encourage anyone going through an emotional affair to pore over Suzi's articles and face the reality of the situation. I had to read them several times to make it sink in. I had convinced myself that this was a "real" relationship and if we could just be together my life would...
I looked at her and I said “I forgive you.”
Suzie, There is a small chart I copied into my journal off of your website at the beginning of this dark journey. It contains 3 stages. I can't tell you how many times I have looked at that chart asking myself when I would get to stage 3- Learning and Acceptance? It seemed like I would never truly get there. In an odd twist of fate, it was my trip to CA that gave me the final push. The first week, of my two-week trip proved to be unpleasant and challenging at best. I wrestled my ego what seemed like minute-by-minute. It was mentally exhausting. And it was inside of one of the most impulsive things I have ever done that I found peace. Faced with having lived in CA for 10 years and never taking the opportunity to go see the Golden Gate Bridge, I made the decision to go at 5:00 pm Saturday night. As I made it to my destination and I stood on a hilltop staring over the Bay area with the Golden Gate Bridge in my foresight (a life long dream of mine), I embraced that moment and felt so courageous for taking the opportunity...
The victim vs. survivor thought process is really resonating with me now
This is the perfect stepping stone on my path to recovery. I truly sense it in my spirit. The victim vs. survivor thought process is really resonating with me now. I have been trying to move forward after the ordeal but seemingly am in a holding pattern. The quick response leads me to believe you genuinely care. This is so needed at the moment. Friends of mine feel empathy but do not understand what going through this entails. Thanks again!
We have completed the 12 weeks and our relationship is in a state that I love
My husband had an affair for 4 months. I was totally devastated and felt my whole world was destroyed. I decided to check the internet for help and found Suzie's website. I loved the fact that even though her website was free, it was so very informative. It truly was a wealth of information and answered a lot of questions that I had, and validated feelings that I was having. My husband found it also very helpful for himself. We were offered the 12-week coaching course and found out about the cost. We decided this was something that would be incredibly helpful in our relationship and that would be priceless. We decided that we wanted to be together and wanted to do whatever it took to have more of Suzie's help. We have completed our 12 week course and our relationship is in a state that I love. I am grateful for the tools that I have learned to apply to my daily living in every aspect of my life. I have learned to love, be truly forgiving, live in the moment, and to look to the good in everything. We believe that Suzie is a blessing and am very...
I just tried to book another session
Thank you for talking with me yesterday. I found it very helpful. I just tried to book another session, and you do not have anything until next Wednesday. Is there anything sooner? Please let me know if you have an earlier time to talk.
We are still together, and madly in love once again!
Hi Suzie! You may not remember us, but we (Jack and Nora) were the cattle ranching couple from Colorado. We purchased your Marriage Rehab and did a session with you about a year ago. We are still together, and madly in love once again! If it is possible, we would love to briefly Skype with you sometime to say THANK YOU "in person" (but we don't want to take up any of your valuable time from other couples who need you). If not, we want to say you are incredible (!) and you helped us to get back in touch with our authentic selves so we could get our marriage back on track. Thank you, thank you, thank you. God bless!
Your site is doing a lot more for me to help me heal than the therapist!
Suzie, Thanks so much! Your site is amazing. I went to therapy as well and your site is doing a lot more for me to help me heal than the therapist! Thanks again!
I’ve just finished listening to “Healing the Hurt you didn’t deserve” for the 10th time
I am so impressed with your quick response any time I’ve reached out to you. When my wife and I get through all the mess she’s created (and I believe we will) I would love to explore ways to help you get this information out to others in need. I found the site via a Google search and told my wife about it. She agreed to purchase the materials only because I asked her to do so. She felt like she was in no position to argue against the purchase. However, once she began to listen to the audios related to the “wayward partner” she found the information there life-changing. She told me a couple of days ago that it seems every other sentence or two contains something of great value for her. I, too, have found the audios a tremendous help. I just finished listening to Healing the Hurt You Didn’t Deserve for the 10th time. My wife and I are going away this weekend. I’ve really struggled with anger these last couple of days so listening to the Healing the Hurt… audio this morning has helped. Suzie says that anger is a reaction to fear. I’ve thought a...
For the first time, I feel like we can survive
We are months into the process, but new to Suzie. For the first time, I feel like we can survive and be better.
Your articles and blog have helped me tremendously
Suzie, I first want to say thank you ever so much! Your articles and blog have helped me tremendously, and I think I have read every single word you have written whether it is for the wayward spouse, the affair partner or the betrayed spouse. I identify with the former two, because I have been cheating on my husband but it has been three months now since I broke free from the affair. I hope you will be writing more articles soon, because I treasure your words of advice and read them over and over again. Everything you say makes so much sense. I can't explain to you how much it helps me, especially on nights like tonight when I find myself longing for the satisfaction and 'love' I used to get from my affair partner. I use your blog posts to steer me back and remind myself why I should NOT make contact and why I should snap out of it. Anyway, that's all. Looking forward to reading more of your gems soon 🙂 Thanks again!
I went through the whole program again yesterday and today (again!)
I just wanted to thank you again for your quick response with helping me find my password to access my home-study programs. Your website and coaching tools are extremely helpful in my life. I went through the whole program again yesterday and today (again!) and I wanted to let you and Suzie know that they were such a great help. Words can't even describe how thankful I am for having found Suzie's website when I did. Thank you Again!!!!
We would like to upgrade to Marriage Rehab
We would like to upgrade to Marriage Rehab. (please charge our card on file) I am just starting out with the Betrayed Partner recovery course and have only finished the First Aid session. I have also explored Suzie's goasksuzie.com website. Her message of hope and forgiveness for one's own growth, for the wellness of the self and of the family, and, if possible, also salvaging the marriage, is presented in a logical, realistic, and (in my estimation) comprehensive way. This is what lead me to purchase the Betrayed Partner bundle after reading much of what's available on her website. So much of what she says just somehow "rings true" for me and is insightful and logical. She seems to blend respect for the wonder of life with respect for and acknowledgement of the realities of the situations, emotions, etc that I find myself confronting at this time of extreme challenge in my life. She is clear about the things that she believes must be done, and leaves the rest open as the choice of the individual. This instills confidence and trust. I have recognized that forgiveness is central to my recovery from this experience, and have been looking for a...
It’s the first time in a long time I feel secure with myself and our relationship
Thank you so much for all you’ve done for us. I really don’t know if we could have gotten through these tough times without you and your programs. Brooke has been loving and nice to me and there have been no awkward discussions about the past. We are communicating much better at work and at home. She deserves a lot of praise. I’ve tried to do so all week. I know there’s still work to do, but I’m ready for it. It’s the first time in a long time I feel secure with myself and our relationship and it really feels like I’m living more in the moment and not so much in the past or future. I can’t say thank you enough... coach. 🙂 As Brooke has said before, you truly are our angel. Have a great weekend!
Forgiving Infidelity was exactly what I needed
Thank you, Suzie. Your Marriage Rehab course has been very helpful. Forgiving Infidelity was exactly what I needed. I am not a self-help kind of person, and when I was blindsided by my husband’s affair (a year and a half after it was over), I didn’t want to confide in anybody. My husband and I decided to work through this together because we love each other very much. It’s a very personal thing, and we wanted to try this before we headed to a marriage counselor. I found it to be insightful and tactful. Again, thank you so much. Your site and coaching programs are wonderful resources!
Suzie WILL help you
For all of the men out there who have stumbled across these words because you are thinking of having an affair or are in one now, this isn’t just by chance. You are here because you are supposed to be. If you love your wife and yourself and your family like I do, stop and think about what is real in your life and what you really want. It may be that you don’t know right now and that is okay but I promise you that if you talk to Suzie just once, you will have a different opinion about your wife and yourself and your life! There is a world of things that make us think we have to be like or act like someone or something else but if you are ever going to be a man of independence and know your place in your world, educate yourself and find yourself. You will find honesty and forgiveness in yourself, your wife and even others. The truth is hard but when you live transparently, you are truly a free soul and the best friend and husband. The day my wife learned the truth about my affair was the best...
We have found Suzie’s guiding principles to be a KEY component to our personal growth
I can only say the sessions in Suzie's Marriage Rehab course have been nothing short of completely enlightening. We have been attending both couples counseling and one on one counseling and we have found Suzie's guiding principles to be a KEY component to our personal growth, our recovery and the growth of our relationship. Along with our love of each other, our willingness to try and our own efforts, Suzie's insights have given us the tools and knowledge to not only get through the storm, but to start visualizing and crafting a future in which we live differently in ourselves and in our relationships. But, for us, Writing a list of specific needs, verbalizing them to ourselves and then to each other was key in allowing us to recognize our needs, understand them, understand how we felt when they weren't being met, understanding if they were genuine needs or those borne of fear based emotions and then understanding them in more of a global, less specific setting. Since a big part of our problem was not understanding our own needs, not being okay with actually having them, compounded by not asking for those needs to be met, I hope to...
Your advice is so helpful to me
Good morning Suzie! It's funny but by reading so much on your site and going through the Marriage Rehab course, I feel like I already know you, and I want to tell you that your advice is so helpful to me. If not for finding your site I would have not made the progress I have made since finding out about my husbands affair. He feels the same way. Truly, we thank you for all that you do.
My husband and I have not experienced infidelity (yet)
I'd just like to say that my husband and I have not experienced infidelity (yet), but as I read Suzie's articles, I could see that our marriage could easily head in that direction if we do not make some changes. I was really drawn to the "infidelity proofing your marriage" concepts that Suzie speaks of. We are taking the approach of fixing things between us before it gets to infidelity because all of the factors that lead to infidelity (passiveness, boredom, feeling in prison, etc.) is already there. Thank you, again.
I broke free about a month ago
Hi Suzie, Your site has been "extremely helpful" to me and I'm forever grateful for this service. I am married and had an affair with my "good friend"'s boyfriend (now fiancé) on and off for several years now. I always struggled with the guilt and betraying my friend. I attempted numerous times to end the affair only to run back into his arms. After reading the articles on your site and going through your End of the Affair program (twice), I broke free about a month ago. Thank you so much!
Super skeptical
I have to say I'm so glad I found this series. I was super skeptical of the cost and also I'm surprised that I can't find any third-party reviews of the program and website out there on the Internet. As a "modern consumer" I am used to beginning every purchase by first looking at the reviews whether this is on yelp, Amazon, consumer reports or any other verifiable unbiased site. This made it difficult for me to make the initial purchase of the Wayward Rehab online workshop, but since my partner seems to be in agreement about how helpful your site has been for her - I registered for the course and have now gone through the first hour. I'm already impressed - as well as uplifted - by the information contained within. I guess what I'm saying is it would be nice to somehow figure out a way to get some reviews out there. Thank you for creating such a helpful program!
I am wrapping my mind and heart around trying to forgive
The sessions really did help me a lot. I am now practicing to look to where my anger is pointing and trying to not get caught up in obsessing in knowing answers to things that really have answers and do not heal. I am wrapping my mind and heart around trying to forgive... myself, others in this, and others in my past... as I am finding the process also leads me into childhood events as well. Thanks for everything. You and Suzie are angels!
Graceful Exits is Astounding
Hello Brad,I want to thank you again for "Graceful Exits". While each program has helped the subject of its title, "Graceful Exits" is astounding. It holds many clues about affairs which have helped me understand and come to grips with what has happened. I appreciate the clarity and logic Suzie offers. It is helpfully applicable to other spheres of life. Suzie explains the payback and de-motivation theory so well. I am the betrayed looking for answers and solace. "Graceful Exits" taught me so much about human nature that I feel equipped to really make a difference with my marriage and relationships in general. I now have better depth of understanding, compassion and will apply it to myself and family. It's as if the pieces of a puzzle are beginning to fit together. Thank you. All the best and many heartfelt thanks to you and Suzie.