Here’s something you might find interesting. Once a marriage is rocked by infidelity, there are basically two ways couples tend to react to the discovery. The first group will immediately end the marriage, and for about 20% of couples, this is exactly what happens. The second group (about 80%) will go in the opposite direction and try to mend the marriage. Two ways to respond to infidelity: end it or mend it.
If you choose to end your relationship, then I wish you all the best. However, this website, and all the resources it provides, is concerned with helping those 80% who are attempting to mend, heal and rebuild their relationships after the unthinkable has happened.
Sadly, of the 80% of couples who do attempt to mend their marriages after infidelity, the majority will not make it because according to recent statistics, more than half of those couples will either file for divorce or separate somewhere between 6-36 months after the date of discovery.
Here’s the problem. Most can’t tell the difference. They can’t tell the difference between what needs to change, what needs to stay the same, what needs to be embraced, and what ought to be discarded completely. And so as a result, after a brief honeymoon period, most couples tend to resort back to the same old same old, taking each other for granted again. In other words, after a brief period of change, most revert back to their old way of being together. Now here’s the even bigger problem. That old way is what put them on a collision course with infidelity in the first place.
It’s not that those couples don’t genuinely want to save their marriages — they do. In fact, they will spend a lot of time, energy and money attempting to do just that. They will go to marriage counselling, they will take couple’s trips, spend money on flowers, cards and candy… doing whatever they can to right the wrongs and make a brave attempt to stop the ship from sinking. So why doesn’t it work for so many? Although there’s not one definitive reason (every couple is different), I believe there are challenges that emerge as a result of this type of event that most couples are simply not aware of. Here’s what I mean.
So think about it like this. If you rebuild your relationship and it’s just a duplicate of the old relationship, then you have the exact same chances of history repeating itself. And since I’m sure that’s not what you want, the ability to tell the difference between what needs to change, what you need to strengthen, and what you need to keep the same, must play a critical role in your marriage — not just for surviving but for thriving again after infidelity.
Now here’s the good news. There is a way for you and your partner to rebuild a stronger, better and more passionate marriage after infidelity despite all you’ve been through, but it’s going to be different than the way you’ve been doing it, and yet it works.
So here’s the key question. Are you willing to find out what that is? If you are, then my Happiness After Infidelity couples video home study course might be a part of the solution you’ve been searching for.
My Happiness After Infidelity video course is a 21-step online coaching program, during which I coach you and your partner step by step through my specific process for healing, rebuilding and rekindling love, trust and happiness after infidelity. This is not generic relationship coaching, but rather this workshop is deeply rooted in the best of what works for dealing with your exact situation. There are no fillers and no hype, instead you get my best tools, tips, strategies, resources, action plans, watch-outs, next steps and checklists that have proven effective with couples just like you.
The Best Part? You can access Happiness After Infidelity instantly. There’s no waiting and no awkwardness. You can begin right where you are, taking it one step at a time, listening and learning from the privacy and convenience of your own home.
This course takes you step by step through my process for truly forgiving yourself and each other. You’re going to be surprised by how good you’ll feel once any lingering sense of resentment, guilt or shame is gone.
Since trust can only be rebuilt via actions, not words, I packed this course with real-life trust building gains, exercises and activities for you both to experiment with — the type that will take you a long way towards restoring true trust.
The fear of recurrence is one of the biggest hurdles for couples in the rebuilding process. And so I’m going to show you how to lower your anxiety and lower your risk by learning how to infidelity-proof your marriage, as well as how to become more temptation-proofed yourself.
Here’s the bottom line. True Love is the only cure for a broken heart, a broken dream or a broken home. And this is why in this course, I teach you and your partner the art of True Love, which is not to be confused with romantic love, and help you to embrace a deeper, more meaningful way of loving each other.
I strongly believe couples who go through the recovery process together have a higher chance of successfully recovering together, and yet the individual hurt and pain that’s unique to each partner should not be overlooked. And so I’ve designed this home study with both the individual and the couple in mind. So, for example, for the betrayed partner, this course helps to lift them above the pain and hurt, so they can embrace a more beautiful vision of what the future could be after the storm has passed. For the wayward partner, it shows them how to learn from their own mistakes and make that shift in attitude that transforms them from being the villain to being the hero again. And for the couple, it puts them on the same page, moving in the same direction — reminding them both why all that is possible as a couple has not yet been accomplished.
Your Self-Help Emergency Room Treatment
Even if you’re well past the first 30 days, you’ll want to complete this first session. Why? Because it’s helpful for you to begin as you need to go on. Now my goal for you in this session is to give you the tools and the checklists that will keep you out of overwhelm and prevent pitfalls and future regret makers.
Your Essential Survivor’s Guide
Now the psychology of what it takes to survive is different for men and women, and so I’ve made my survival guide gender specific. So complete whichever session applies to you. Although I must say, most clients end up doing both. So, my goal for you in this session is to give you the tools, tips and action steps that act like an emotional life vest to prevent you from sinking or drowning in uncertainty and overwhelm.
Your Fire Extinguisher for Angry Emotions
Here’s the thing. Anger is one of the biggest obstacles to healing, and it’s also one of the most difficult to move past. And yet once you’re able to move past the anger, it will feel like a dark cloud is moved away from the sun. Everything is lighter, brighter and more manageable. So my goal for you in this session is to give you my best tools, tips and key insights for healing anger, thereby restoring the light to your heart and mind.
Your Booster Shot for Healing and Resiliency
Deep down, you know you didn’t deserve this type of pain, and so there is a certain level of resistance and resentment to having to heal it. The bad news is, this often delays, or in some cases, even suspends the natural healing process. So my goal in this session is to provide powerful insights, key perspective and life-enhancing tools that will act like a booster shot and jump-start your natural resiliency so that healing happens for you sooner, rather than later.
Your Antidote for Unhappiness
Forgiving infidelity is a lot like Einstein’s theory of relativity. While many people have heard about it, very few know exactly how it works. So my goal in this session is to provide you with my step-by-step formula for forgiving a cheating spouse, and for you to do it in such a way that it takes the myth, mysteries and misconceptions out of it. That way, forgiving happens naturally and permanently for you.
By the time you’re halfway through your sessions, a lot of your fears will be eliminated or greatly reduced. And by the time you’ve completed all your sessions, you’ll have a new perspective on exactly what it’s going to take to move past the past and allow happiness to become your default condition again.
Your “Crash Course” in Mistake Management
This is your “crash course” in mistake management. So even if it’s way past D-day for you, it’s important that you start with this session because it’s going to lay the groundwork for a lot of the future thinking that will eventually get you out of trouble. So my goal for you in this session is to give you the tools you need to not just calm the negative backlash, but to teach you how to intelligently respond to them.
Your Mental & Emotional Bulletproof Vest
In the aftermath of discovery, there are only two times you can expect to meet with hostility and suspicion, and that’s day and night. So my goal for you in this session is to give you the mental toughness skills and the emotional pressure-proofing that you’re going to need to stand in this storm, to sit in the hot seat, and to survive the day-to-day interrogations, suspicions and hostilities.
Your Medicine for Restoring Self-Respect
Feeling guilt after having had an affair is a bit like taking medicine after death, in that it’s a little too late to be helpful, and yet it doesn’t stop that guilt from showing up anyway. So, my goal for you in this session is to help you make the shift from regret to results, and from self-loathing to self-correcting so that you can restore your self-respect.
Your “Missing Manual” on How to Inspire Forgiveness
It often comes as an unpleasant surprise for many to discover that begging, pleading and promising usually fail to produce results. So my goal in this session is to provide you with the missing pieces of the forgiveness puzzle so that you can know exactly what it will take to truly inspire real and lasting forgiveness. Here’s a quick hin. It’s going to be different than what you’d been taught.
Your Language for Inspiring Second Chances
There’s no doubt there are differences between male and female psychology. And those differences are even more profound when you’re trying to win that person back. So, depending on which is applicable for you, my goal for you in this session is to give you a crash course in the psychology of what to do, what to say, the right words, the right language, and how to lower the defenses and turn the tide back in your favor.
Your Emotional Neutralizer for Breaking Free
This session neutralizes the compulsive and addictive allure of the affair. You see, affairs are like lobster pots, in that they are much easier to get into than out of. My goal for you in this session is to not only empower you to break free, but to teach you the tools that will ensure you stay free and are able to live guilt-free all the way up to forever.
Your Bucket of Cold Water for Inappropriate Feelings
Just because an affair is over or never got physical doesn’t mean your feelings can’t still be intense. And just because an affair is busted doesn’t mean the desire vanishes overnight. In fact, the affair fog can linger far longer than you would expect. So, my goal for you in this session is to provide some powerful tools, insights, and tips that will act like a bucket of cold water on those overheated and inappropriate feelings.
You’ll have a better understanding of how to lift up the person you’ve let down. And by the time you’ve completed the course all the way through, you’ll know how to turn your mistakes into breakthroughs, how to become stronger during times of adversity rather than weaker, and what it takes to trigger feelings of respect rather than contempt from those you’ve wronged. And if any of those things sound like the type of result you’d like to have, then I strongly encourage you to play close attention to what you’re learning in your sessions.
How to Infidelity-Proof Your Marriage
Return to Love and Intimacy
Lays the Groundwork for Your Road Ahead
Infidelity recovery is like riding a bicycle — you’ve got to find a balance between what needs to change in the relationship and what needs to stay the same. And just like riding a bicycle, speed is not what is important, but going in the right direction is. So my goal for both of you in this session is to help you lay the groundwork that will get you both traveling down the same road to recovery… where the focus will not be on how you get here, but rather how you get to where you want to go from here.
Your Super Glue for Repairing Broken Trust
Trust cannot be repaired by hoping, wishing or promising. Trust is repaired by consistent right actions. This means, you cannot demand trust; you must actively demonstrate it. So, my goal for both of you in this session is to take the mystery out of restoring trust via actual trust building games and activities so that demonstrating trust is a real and achievable thing for both of you.
Your Vaccine to Prevent History from Repeating Itself
If you were to think of infidelity like a virus, this session would be your vaccine against it. And so my goal for both of you in this session is to provide you with the tools, relationship dynamics and approaches that I’ve used with other couples and have found to work the best in helping to boost your immunity and protect you and your relationship from infidelity ever happening again.
Your Direction Back to Love
I consider the affair to be a detour on the road to happily ever after, and this session is the navigation system that takes you step by step back to the road of love and intimacy. So my goal for you in this session is to help you make it safe again to reopen your heart and your mind, and to shift your focus from what you lost to what can be restored.
Exposes the Worm in the Forbidden Fruit
If there’s one session I think should be mandatory for all married couples, it’s this one. Why? Because when it comes to extramarital temptations, it’s not a matter of if you’re going to encounter it; it’s really just a matter of when and how often. So my goal for you in this session is to expose the hidden traps, the bait and the lure of any extramarital temptation… so you’ll be able to shun the bait rather than having to struggle with the hook.
My Best Kept Secrets Revealed
Monogamy is like a cup of tea — it needs principles to preserve it and passion to sweeten it. Unfortunately, the average couple tends to focus on principle and forget passion. And that’s where the trouble begins. My goal for you in this session is to teach you both my best kept secrets for keeping monogamy fresh, sweet, and endlessly romantic, and to arm you with the type of relationship insights that will transform the average marriage into a passionate one.
Takes Your Marriage from Average to Passionate
Fair warning: As the title suggests, it’s about increasing the levels of sexual happiness and passion in your marriage. So, I’m going to “go there”. Expect some sacred cows to be roasted in this session. A few comfort zones may be shattered. My goal for you in this session is to give you a “sneak peek” into the bedroom habits, psychology and romantic rituals of passionate couples. We’ll discuss how they’re able to keep their marriages, chemistry and sexual intimacy red hot… all the way up to forever. Now, that’s all I’m going to say about this session. (You have been warned.)
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Our sessions helped both my wife and I open up, and I truly think it helped me discover things about myself that I spent too long ignoring and hiding. The work is not over, but I know that Suzie has helped me lay a firm foundation for my wife and I to continue along the road to recovery and ultimate happiness. Just the change between us over the past couple of months has been amazing, considering where we were when my infidelity came to light. I truly believe that without Suzie’s help, we would have gone our separate ways and lost what was and still is a great love.
Suzie's message of hope and forgiveness for one's own growth, for the wellness of the self and of the family, and, if possible, also salvaging the marriage, is presented in a logical, realistic, and (in my estimation) comprehensive way. So much of what she says just somehow "rings true" for me and is insightful and logical. She is clear about the things that she believes must be done, and leaves the rest open as the choice of the individual. This instills confidence and trust. Thank you again for your attentiveness and customer care.
At the beginning of December 2013, I purchased Wayward Rehab. It's been a tremendous help in restoring my marriage. I am forever grateful for the insights. In only 2 months, my wife and I began reconciling and establishing a new marriage and fuller relationship with each other. And although we’ve made significant progress, I am interested in the entire program to continue learning from this experience, and to ensure that our relationship remains on the path of mutual growth and admiration. Again, many thanks.
I believe that making your marriage better after infidelity is not just about fixing problems; it’s also about reigniting fires. And I also believe that two people can arrive at the same destination even if they’re coming from two opposite directions. So, while infidelity is a deal breaker, it can also represent an opportunity to make a new deal. And although trust can be ruined, trust can also be restored. And even when temptation lures a person off the street and narrow, it’s never too late for them to find their way back home.
And wouldn’t it be nice… If at some point in the future, maybe five or ten years from now, you both find yourselves sitting on the front porch, loosely holding hands, bathed in the warm glow of the evening sun as it settles down over the horizon, and you both can reminisce on how far you’ve come and how much closer you’ve grown as a couple, how much longer the love has gotten despite all of the setbacks and struggles, and how rather than this affair breaking you apart, it actually helped you to break through to another level.
Here’s the way I see it. A part of my job as your coach is to be an advocate for that future, to be the voice that reminds you why the best is yet to come. And if that sounds like a voice you’d like to listen to, then I’m honored to be a part of your journey. Let me be the first to welcome you to Happiness After Infidelity for Couples. I look forward to having you in the course.
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