Betrayed Spouse

Perhaps the biggest decision you will ever have to make – is whether to rebuild your marriage or divorce after an affair. Obviously, this is a decision not to be taken lightly.  In this article, I am going to share some insights gained from my 17+ years of experience in helping couples to rebuild their marriages after an affair. Included in this article, you’ll find my Rebuild or Divorce After the Affair Questionnaire.

Here’s one of my favorite stories… Once upon a time, there was a very wise old woman who would walk from town to town across the countryside. She was very poor in the material world. … Read more 9 Myths Around Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity

Dear Suzie, In the light of everything I have discovered about my wife’s affair, I’m having a difficult time deciding if it’s even worth saving my marriage. Sometimes I feel that it would be better for me to just cut my losses. At other times, I feel there’s plenty to stay for. Suzie, with all the lies and dishonesty, I just don’t know what’s true anymore. Can you help me?

Have you ever wondered why aren’t we more like trumpeter swans? Seriously… wouldn’t it be nice if human beings were “hard-wired for monogamy” so that once we fall in love with one mate, we’re automatically rendered “immune” to the sexual allure of all other potential mates?

So, you want to rebuild your marriage after infidelity – now what? Dear Suzie, I truly believe my husband is a good guy and our marriage and family is worth saving… and I am willing … Read more Rebuilding Your Marriage After Infidelity

Dear Suzie, My husband and I are in the process of rebuilding our marriage. We’ve both had affairs, and I’m plagued with fear that this will happen to us again. Can you share with me some tips on how to affair-proof our marriage so that it never does?

Dear Suzie, Both my wife and I have been trying to rebuild trust after the affair, but it doesn’t seem to stick. I’ve heard that once trust is broken, the relationship will never be the same again. I sincerely hope this isn’t true because before this happened, we totally trusted each other. And now, it seems like she’s plagued with doubts and insecurities about me all the time. What can I do to repair the trust so we can both be happy again?

Dear Suzie, My husband keeps telling me I need to let it go. And days will go by when I feel that I truly have forgiven. But then something will trigger my anger. He’ll say something or I’ll hear something on TV, and it just brings it all back again. I know I can’t continue like this. My husband and even my kids walk around me on egg shells because at any moment something can set me off. Please help.

Living transparently describes an open-book lifestyle. It’s the personal choice to allow your partner to see, know, and verify your intentions, emotions, actions and activities. The opposite of living transparently can be described as…