Were you ever given a choice in your partner’s decision to cheat? If you weren’t, then this proves that infidelity is not a democracy; it’s a privately-held agenda. (Did you get that?)
Key Insight: There are no reasons for infidelity, just excuses.
Any number of things can serve as excuses to cheat. We could point the finger at a bad childhood, a bad marriage, a boring sex life, too much stress, or financial difficulties, but they would all still be excuses.
The fact is…
Since no one is perfect, no marriage or relationship is perfect.
Your low sex drive could leave the door open to temptation, and yet, the decision to step through that door and cross the line from fidelity to infidelity is still a personal choice.
Here’s the reality you must wake up to:
Regardless of how close you are to someone else, you just can’t control their choices. So, to answer your question: did you drive him to it? Nope. You weren’t even in the car. The most you are at this point is a witness to his poor choices. Therefore, take no blame, no responsibility and no unearned guilt for them.
Until we speak again…
Remember… Love Wins!