What is Infidelity Recovery? "Infidelity recovery" describes the process that brings an end to the suffering, pain and hurt brought on by an extramarital indiscretion or deception. Notice the word process. This word is key because the experience of recovery is never a one-time event, but rather, a series of..
Suzie's Advice Articles
For the Wayward Spouse
There once was a child who played with matches and ended up burning down the barn. When his parents asked why he did what he did, the child responded: “I was only having fun; I didn't mean to burn down the barn!” When asked by the fire marshal if he..
Hi Suzie, My wife just found out about my affair. She's told me never to come back to the house and that she doesn't want to ever see me again. I'm scared out of my mind. I don't want to lose my family, but I'm not sure what my next..
After winning the Masters, the winning golfer had an interesting comment. A reporter asked him to describe what was going through his mind as he approached the 18th hole as he realized he was not only behind on the leader board, but now his ball was buried in the sand trap.Here's..
Dear Suzie, I cheated on my fiancé on a girls' night out. I didn't mean to, it just sort of happened. The guy later contacted me on Facebook, and my boyfriend found out, and he is devastated. We were supposed to get married, and now, he's called off the wedding...
What Does The Return To Love And Intimacy Feel Like? That's a very good question. Here's how the return to love feels: Imagine peace and certainty quietly returning to your heart. Imagine looking back and feeling gratitude for your mistakes. Imagine yourself no longer exiled like the prodigal son, but rather, feeling welcomed..
Hi Suzie, I shared a brief kiss with a woman in my office. My wife found out about it and things went downhill very fast. Although the affair ended almost as soon as it began, I still can't seem to stop thinking about the other woman. I love my wife..
A few years ago, I was sitting in a conference room waiting for the presenter to come and speak to our department. He was a local politician who wanted to pitch our group about helping him do more for the community. For me, it was just another marketing meeting, an..
On a bleak October night, while the city of London is weeping rain, a couple in the upscale neighborhood of Chelsea are fighting in their bedroom. They have been at it for hours. Yelling, swearing, and crying, their throats are hoarse and they are completely exhausted, but neither one is..
Dear Suzie, It's been 2 months since the day I confessed to having an affair, and my husband was devastated. I am the last person he'd ever expect to do something like that to him, and although he says he wants to work it out, I'm not sure he will..
Dear Suzie, I had a four-month long inappropriate relationship with a consultant I met at my job. My wife found out and was devastated. I never meant for any of this to happen. I'm desperate for my wife to forgive me, but I don't know if she will ever get..
Suzie, I had an extramarital affair with a woman at work. How do I forgive myself for having betrayed my wife? She is such a wonderful person. Every time I see the hurt in her eyes, I feel like a total lowlife. I have caused her so much pain and..
Do you know what led you into the affair? For Scott, it all started one week before his wedding day, when (for some reason) he visited a prostitute. After his wedding, Scott continued the pattern of visiting prostitutes until the day his wife found out. Sadly, he'd been married barely..
Dear Suzie, I met a woman at an out-of-town convention. She seemed so confident and sure of herself; I was immediately smitten. Although I consider my marriage a good one, it lacked passion. I guess I was feeling lonely. Because when she came on to me, I just couldn't resist...