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Infidelity Recovery 101

What is Infidelity Recovery? "Infidelity recovery" describes the process that brings an end to the suffering, pain and hurt brought on by an extramarital indiscretion or deception. Notice the word process. This word is key because the experience of recovery is never a one-time event, but rather, a series of small insights that eventually shifts you from pain to peace and from suffering to freedom.It's also important to note… that infidelity recovery applies to anyone caught up in the drama of deception. This includes the betrayed partner, the wayward partner AND the affair partner. This is because when it comes to...

What is Wayward Rehab?

There once was a child who played with matches and ended up burning down the barn. When his parents asked why he did what he did, the child responded: “I was only having fun; I didn't mean to burn down the barn!” When asked by the fire marshal if he knew that playing with matches was dangerous, the child said: “Yes, but I didn't think anything bad would happen to me!”How will that child's story end?Well, it could go one of two ways: Either the child learns his lesson and never plays with matches again, or he fails to learn and grows...

Damage Control 101

Hi Suzie, My wife just found out about my affair. She's told me never to come back to the house and that she doesn't want to ever see me again. I'm scared out of my mind. I don't want to lose my family, but I'm not sure what my next move should be. What should I be doing now?< I'm sorry to hear about your situation; however, you're not alone. By the end of the day, thousands of extramarital indiscretions will be exposed around the world. Only a few wayward partners will confess. The majority will be caught red-handed. Unfortunately, when people...

How to Win Her Back

After winning the Masters, the winning golfer had an interesting comment. A reporter asked him to describe what was going through his mind as he approached the 18th hole as he realized he was not only behind on the leader board, but now his ball was buried in the sand trap.Here's what the golfer told the reporter:“I didn't think about any of my previous mistakes; I simply thought about the hole I was about to play, and I asked myself, how can I put together my best shot from here?”What a powerful answer!It's no surprise this statement came from the mind of...

How to Win Him Back

Dear Suzie, I cheated on my fiancé on a girls' night out. I didn't mean to. It just sort of happened. The guy later contacted me on Facebook, and my boyfriend found out, and he is devastated. We were supposed to get married, and now, he's called off the wedding. I know what I did was wrong, and I'm desperate to win him back. Can you help me? I once heard a Food Network chef comment on the differences between professional chefs and amateur cooks. She said that one of the main differences is the fact that a professional chef always...

7 Secrets to Rekindle Love and Intimacy

What Does The Return To Love And Intimacy Feel Like? That's a very good question. Here's how the return to love feels: Imagine peace and certainty quietly returning to your heart. Imagine looking back and feeling gratitude for your mistakes. Imagine yourself no longer exiled like the prodigal son, but rather, feeling welcomed in your home like an honored guest… all made possible by the return of trust and respect.Now here's how the return to intimacy feels:Imagine kissing each other deeply like honeymooners. Imagine feeling a deeper sense of connection to your partner than ever before. Imagine looking into their eyes as they glow like candles....

The Secret World of Emotional Affairs

Hi Suzie, I shared a brief kiss with a woman in my office. My wife found out about it and things went downhill very fast. Although the affair ended almost as soon as it began, I still can't seem to stop thinking about the other woman. I love my wife, and I want to save my marriage, but I just can't get the other woman off my mind. The guilt is killing me! Is there a way for me to break free from these intense feelings, so I can rebuild my life?” –Yours truly, KevinKevin, what you're experiencing is typically...

Dealing with Temptation in Marriage

A few years ago, I was sitting in a conference room waiting for the presenter to come and speak to our department. He was a local politician who wanted to pitch our group about helping him do more for the community. For me, it was just another marketing meeting, an ordinary workday. I wasn't expecting anything special, but that was before Mr. Politician walked in.He was devastatingly handsome.My heart skipped a beat at first sight. He was exactly my type. Tall, lean, graying at the temples, masculine jaw line, and sensual lips. When he began to speak, my sexual adrenaline shot to the roof,...

10 Things You Can Do to Save Your Marriage After Infidelity

On a bleak October night, while the city of London is weeping rain, a couple in the upscale neighborhood of Chelsea are fighting in their bedroom. They have been at it for hours. Yelling, swearing, and crying, their throats are hoarse and they are completely exhausted, but neither one is willing to give an inch (because both know they are right).On the floor below the warring couple…Their three children are doing whatever they can to drown out the sounds of the war going on above them. The oldest child, a boy just turning 13, turns up the volume on his...

10 Steps for Surviving Your Own Extramarital Affair

Dear Suzie, It's been 2 months since the day I confessed to having an affair, and my husband was devastated. I am the last person he'd ever expect to do something like that to him, and although he says he wants to work it out, I'm not sure he will ever get past it. I've told him everything, and yet he still questions me every day. He says he's trying to forgive, but it feels like we are sinking deeper and deeper. Suzie, I love him so much and I want our marriage to survive. What else can I do? Thank you...

How to Inspire Your Partner’s Forgiveness After the Affair

Dear Suzie, I had a four-month long inappropriate relationship with a consultant I met at my job. My wife found out and was devastated. I never meant for any of this to happen. I'm desperate for my wife to forgive me, but I don't know if she will ever get over me lying to her and being with another woman. What can I do to get her to forgive me? I am truly sorry for what I did. I want my marriage back. What do I need to do? – William B.Dear William, Learning how to inspire someone's desire to forgive is...

Embracing Self-Forgiveness After Having an Extramarital Affair

Suzie, I had an extramarital affair with a woman at work. How do I forgive myself for having betrayed my wife? She is such a wonderful person. Every time I see the hurt in her eyes, I feel like a total lowlife. I have caused her so much pain and hurt. She didn't deserve this. Now, I'm having a really hard time forgiving myself for what I did. Please help! –Deep Regret As I was thinking about how best to answer your question, I was reminded of a story about a World War II submarine. Let me share it with you. Picture...

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You are such an inspiration!

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Natalia P.

What can I say? My life was in shambles and the slew of bad choices I had made left me empty and miserable. In trying to save my marriage, I came upon Suzie on the web, and it was as if someone had left a light on in the dark.

Desperate for any help, I booked a session with Suzie. Just in that first hour, I knew I found the help my wife and I needed. It was as if she knew me. And her frankness and compassion made me feel at ease and open. More so, her philosophy and…

Mathew C. (USA)

I believe that nothing that happens in this world is a coincidence. It was by the grace of God that I found Suzie Johnson during one of the most challenging and difficult experiences of my life.

My husband of 15 years betrayed my trust by having sex with another woman whom he had known for only a couple of days. I found out in a very shocking and hurtful way and was suffering tremendous emotional and mental pain when I found Suzie Johnson’s website. I was desperately scouring the internet for information about how to deal with infidelity when I…

Janee L. (USA)

We are months into the process, but new to Suzie. For the first time I feel like we can survive and be better.

Barry W.

Suzie Hi!

Just a note to tell you that we are doing great since our 3-day weekend intensive with you.

Mark has now much more “awareness” in all fields of his life: Me, Kids, Work and it is a real miracle to see him acting in a new way.

Thank you!

As for me, I am feeling safer and I am starting finally to relax and enjoy the renewed energy. Words can't tell you what a blessing you were/are to our lives.

God Bless you.

Missing you tons!

Nadia L. (Singapore)

The day I discovered my husband had been cheating on me was the day I thought my entire life was over. We had only been married for 7 months. The pure shock of that moment struck me like a bolt of lightning. Although the chances of being hit by lightning are much more slim.

My first reaction was obviously: divorce.

That's the only option at that moment, right? Well, not exactly.

After the initial bolt of electricity runs through your body, you have to realize that you can survive after going through such a traumatic experience. You just can't go through it…

Karen W. (USA)

My husband had an affair for 4 months. I was totally devastated and felt my whole world was destroyed.

I decided to check the internet for help and found Suzie's website. I loved the fact that even though her website was free, it was so very informative. It truly was a wealth of information and answered a lot of questions that I had, and validated feelings that I was having. My husband found it also very helpful for himself.

We were offered the 12-session private coaching course and found out about the cost. We decided this was something that would be incredibly helpful in…

Robin K. (USA)

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