Think rationally, not emotionally To say that being in the “hot seat” (after your affair was uncovered) feels extremely uncomfortable, would be the understatement of the day, right? And yet, it’s exactly because of this level of discomfort why so many wayward partners end up adding insult to injury and doing more harm than good. For instance, they make
What is Infidelity Recovery? “Infidelity recovery” describes the process that brings an end to the suffering, pain and hurt brought on by an extramarital indiscretion or deception. Notice the word process. This word is key because the experience of recovery is never a one-time event, but rather, a series of small insights that eventually shifts
Temptation in marriage is a lot like fishing. It involves three elements — the bait, the lure, and the trap. Learning how to recognize and handle all three takes you a long way toward being temptation-proof. Let’s talk about those key elements now. Ever heard someone described as “alluring”? It’s a close relative of being
Here are what I consider to be the three biggest obstacles to inspiring your partner’s full and unconditional forgiveness after your affair. I truly believe that as long as any of these obstacles are in your way, your journey back to love, acceptance, and trust will be much more difficult than it has to be. However,
THE RECIPE FOR EMOTIONAL AFFAIRS Supplicating, Begging, or Bargaining This is a biggie! People don’t usually realize just how supplicating, begging, bargaining, beseeching, and pleading are perceived. When children use these tactics, we think they’re cute and they work, but when adults use them, they have a tendency to backfire. Rather than being endearing, they’re actually repulsive
THE RECIPE FOR EMOTIONAL AFFAIRS Defensiveness: Defending Your Excuses or Playing the Victim Card Nobody enjoys having their mistakes splashed across the front page news. No one likes admitting when they’re wrong, and most people (myself included) absolutely never, under any circumstances, want to look weak. And yet, when you make a poor “judgment call” and
Clearing Up The Confusion: 5 Insights To Better Understand Emotional Affairs What follows… are what I believe to be the five major sources of confusion blocking awareness and keeping you blind to the seductive emptiness of an emotional affair. I suggest you read the following five insights and search your mind for any places (where you,
What Was I Trying To Avoid? We’re always trying to move toward the things we want, or trying to move away from the things we don’t want. It’s been my experience that for many partners who have been wayward, the affair was an irrational attempt to move away from (avoid) something they didn’t want to feel,
Focus on what you do want (instead of what you don’t want) Have you ever bought a new car, only to notice over the next few weeks how many cars there are like yours? Did those cars suddenly hit the road, or were they already there and you just hadn’t noticed them before? Scientific research
Listen to Your Partner It takes two to argue, but only one to end the argument. The best way out of conflict is to start listening. When I say listen, I don’t just mean being quiet. I’m talking about full attention listening. This is where you don’t just keep yourself from talking but you also mute
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