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The Power of a Passionate Wife

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Before you answer that question, I believe it’s important that you know who the passionate woman is and who she is not. To explain that difference, I’d like to share with you the story of the 1947 Cheval Blanc, otherwise known as the most faked wine in the world.

The Most Faked Wine in the World

If you’re a wine lover, chances are, you’ve heard of the 1947 Cheval Blanc — the most celebrated wine of the 20th century. If you’re not a wine lover, maybe you remember it as the wine the feared food critic Anton Ego ordered in Disney’s Ratatouille. If it didn’t catch your attention then, maybe it has now, because a six-liter bottle of 1947 Cheval Blanc recently set the world record price for a single bottle, when it was sold to a private collector for $304,375 (£192,000).

In other words…

If the 1947 Cheval Blanc were a diamond, it would be the Hope diamond. If it were a car, it would be a Bugatti. If it were a religious relic, it would be the Holy Grail.

What it comes down to is this: 

The ’47 Cheval Blanc is the wine all serious wine lovers want to experience before they die. It’s the wine that even the most jaded aficionado will travel thousands of miles and pay thousands of dollars for to taste.

As cool as all that may be, in my opinion, it’s not the price, taste and mythology of this vintage that makes it so interesting. What makes it really interesting to me is the birth story of this wine.

Here’s how the story goes (as told by Mike Steinberger):

The birth of the 1947 Cheval Blanc can only be described as a happy accident of nature because this wine was born of aberrant weather. 

The summer of 1947 was almost Biblical in its extremity, and the grapes had more or less roasted on the vine. Then, it was vinified under primitive conditions because back in those days, wineries were not yet temperature-controlled, so the fermentation process was medieval at best. Yet from this impossible beginning came a wine that has become the modern-day yardstick against which other wines are measured, the benchmark to which all winemakers aspire. As another expert puts it, “When you consider the fact that this wine is, technically, appallingly deficient in acidity and excessively high in alcohol, then by all accounts this is a wine that should have been destroyed by its defects.” But that’s not what happened. So, the ’47 Cheval has become known as the “miracle wine” because after 55 years, the wine is still remarkably fresh, phenomenally concentrated and profoundly complex.

What's the secret of the 1947 Cheval Blanc?

Most experts agree that it comes down to the following:

  1. The ’47 Cheval is not a wine that someone contrived to make; it’s a wine that essentially made itself.
  2. In this wine, the flaws inexplicably became virtues. The faults became qualities, and the excesses produced an exceptional wine.
  3.  The growers were smart enough to recognize that Mother Nature was going to have her say in the making of this wine, and they were courageous enough to stand aside and let it happen.

Because of this confluence of risk, uncertainty and impossible odds in summer of 1947, on the right bank of the Gironde River, a legend was born.

Today, the 1947 Cheval Blanc has the double honor of being the most sought-after wine AND the most faked wine in the world. Because according to Serena Sutcliffe, the wine director of Sotheby’s, there are more bottles of ’47 Cheval Blanc in the market than were ever produced.

What does the 1947 Cheval Blanc have to do with being a passionate woman?

Well, I believe the two have a lot in common. Here’s what I mean:

It’s been my observation that the world is divided into two kinds of women: passionate women and passive women. And the difference between these two women comes down to the same key differences that make the ’47 Cheval Blanc different from all the rest.

Just like a genuine 1947 Cheval Blanc…

  1. A passionate woman is not a woman anyone “contrives” to be; she is the author of her life.
  2. A passionate woman is one who is able (willing) to love herself “as is,” therefore all her flaws inexplicably become virtues.
  3. A passionate woman is one who is smart and intuitive enough to recognize that the divine made her for a purpose, and she is courageous enough to get out of her own way.
  4. As in the birth story of the ’47 Cheval Blanc, a passionate woman is not inevitable. She is not the product of privilege, good looks, status or perfect childhood, but more likely, the product of impossible odds, difficult circumstances and tragic conditions — all of which combined to create a miracle. And perhaps most significantly…
  5. Just like a 1947 bottle of Cheval Blanc, the passionate woman also has the double distinction of being the most sought-after AND the most faked woman in the world, because more women are faking passion than are genuinely living passionately.

How can you spot a real passionate woman in a world filled with imitations? I think that’s a great question. Helping you find the answer is what this article is all about.

The way I see it, the type of woman you are determines the type of wife you become, and basically, the world is divided into two types of married women: those who are passionate and those who are passive.

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Who is the passionate wife?

I define the passionate wife as any married woman who takes an active role in creating the conditions by which love and passion can continue to grow in her marriage.

Who is the passive wife?

I define a passive wife as any married woman who defaults (or ignores) her responsibility to create the conditions by which love and passion can continue to grow in her marriage.

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Men find passionate women fascinating. If there’s one quality in a woman that every man is attracted to, that quality is passion because a passionate woman is an intriguing blend of innocence, playfulness, sensuality and confidence. She is captivating and fascinating to the opposite sex.

Passionate wives bring more to their marriages. Passion is an inexhaustible source of creativity and newness. And when you channel its creative energy into a marriage, the result is that something extra that allows a couple to remain passionately connected to each other for years. Therefore, life with a passionate wife is bound to be filled with newness, laughter, fun and surprises — these make the man she marries count himself lucky she chose him.

Passionate wives make better lovers. Enthusiasm is a key attribute of playfulness, and enthusiasm is one quality in the bedroom that every man finds irresistible. Because enthusiasm works like catnip for men in the bedroom, the lovemaking experience with a passionate wife is one that those who don’t have it dream of, and those that do have it will do anything to protect.

The key question: Why isn’t every woman a passionate wife? Maybe the thought has already occurred to you. If passionate wives have more fun, enjoy better sex and build stronger marriages, why isn’t every married woman a passionate wife? I believe that’s a great question.

Here’s my theory. I believe the reason why not every woman embraces the role of a passionate wife comes down to two things:

Problem #1: Misguided beliefs about passion

Problem #2: Failure to make the connection between passion and fidelity

Let’s clear up the first problem by banishing some of the myths and false information about passion right now.