What do these two experiences have in common?
It may surprise you to learn that many affair partners become so emotionally entangled in the affair that they often experience similar confusing signals to the ones people who are trapped in abusive relationships experience.
For example, in abusive relationships the abused partner becomes so ensnared by the good times that she blocks out the bad times. In other words, she lives on a diet of what could be rather than what is. The same thing happens in many extramarital affairs. The affair partner becomes addicted to the good times, blocks out the bad times, and also lives on a diet of what could be rather than what is.
Another name for this is delusional thinking.
This means being unwilling to face reality (what is), preferring instead to live in a state of delusion (what is not). It’s because of “the similarities” between these two types of relationships that proper preparation is one of the important keys to successfully breaking free.
In order to help you gain the right perspective and make the proper preparation, here are my seven steps to breaking free from the affair.