5 questions sent in by affair partners who found themselves dealing with the harsh realities of pain & hurt after ending affairs…and needing to know how to better deal with the grief, heartache, guilt anger and disillusionment that so often accompanies the later stages of infidelity or an indiscretion. How do you survive an affair with a married man? Read my answers to others needing to heal the hurt after ending an affair.

How do you know whether or not to forgive their infidelity? If there’s one question that people have asked me over and over, it is this: Should you forgive a spouse for cheating?Many will tell you straight away that you shouldn’t. However, as you know, if the answers were so clear cut, you wouldn’t be here right now. The reality is, knowing how to react..

Hi Suzie, My wife just found out about my affair. She’s told me never to come back to the house and that she doesn’t want to ever see me again. I’m scared out of my mind. I don’t want to lose my family, but I’m not sure what my next move should be. What should I be doing now?

Ever since the affair ended, I’ve been left with a tremendous fear of being alone. I’m scared that I’ll never be loved again. I’ve lost faith in myself. My heart is heavy all the time. Suzie, how can I once again have a life after the affair and be the happy, lighthearted, carefree person I used to be?

In our first session, I asked Scott to try to reconstruct the events leading up to the indiscretion. He told me that in the beginning, he told himself that all he was doing was having one last fling before committing to his fiancée, Karen, for the rest of his life. “What harm could it do?

What follows is a collection of some of the most frequently asked (and most important) questions I’ve gotten from affair partners over the years. You’ve probably asked yourself at least a few of these questions, and I’m here to help you answer them. Hopefully, you’ll read some words of insight and encouragement to help ease your suffering and confusion, and better understand your own situation.

After years of helping people survive and heal from infidelity, I’ve noticed something significant. You’ll always find that at least three people are involved… every time. I call this the unfortunate triangle. Who are they? The betrayed… the unfaithful (wayward)… and the “other” person.

Dear Suzie, Please help! I have tried time and time again to end the affair. Each time I think it’s over, something happens. He calls or emails, and before I know it, I am right back where I started. What can I do to end it permanently once and for all?

Dear Suzie, Two months ago, I had an affair with a married man who goes to my church. I knew what I was doing was wrong, but I felt so madly in love with him. I threw caution to the wind and went ahead anyway. Now that it’s over, I feel deeply ashamed. I can’t seem to forgive myself.