OBSTACLES STANDING BETWEEN YOU AND RECOVERY
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The First Obstacle - Lack of Preparation
Due to the fact that nothing prepares betrayed partners from being blindsided like this... very few people (and I mean very few) ever have a descent game plan in place on how they're going to get through it. It's this combination of not being prepared along with not knowing what to do next that represents the first obstacle to your recovery.
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The Second Obstacle - Staying Away from Poor Advice
It can be difficult to tell who to turn to and what advice to trust and follow. Many of my past clients got poor advice from "well-meaning" family and friends. It's hard to sort out what's helpful advice (something that make things better) from poor advice (something that's going to make things worse). And it's this inability to tell the difference between the advice that is truly helpful versus the advice that ends up causing more problems that represents the second biggest obstacle to your recovery.
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The Third Obstacle - Navigating the Myths & Misconceptions
Perhaps the most dangerous obstacle facing you right now is the myriad of misconceptions surrounding the topic of what it actually takes for any betrayed partner to truly survive (and even thrive) after being rocked by infidelity. I believe one of the most dangerous misconceptions - and one that I continue to hear over and over - is the myth so many people buy into that suggests that infidelity recovery is a matter of time or a matter of luck.
And Yet I'M here to tell you...

Your healing and survival is not going to be the result of time or luck. In fact, if you wait on time to heal you, then you must also keep in mind that whenever we're in pain, time tends to move VERY SLOWLY. And if you were to place the fate of your recovery in the hands of luck, then you'll wind up being disappointed, suffer much longer than necessary and waste a lot of valuable time waiting. If you would prefer to heal sooner than later, then you need to be aware that there's a right way and a wrong way to approach your healing after infidelity. Let me explain what I mean.

Right way vs wrong Way

When it comes to healing after betrayal, there are two approaches you can take: You can take the passive approach to healing or you can take the active approach. You will find that one of these two approaches is much more popular than the other. Can you guess which one it is? If you said the passive approach to healing... then you would be correct.

What is the passive approach?

The passive approach to healing basically comes down to you waiting on "time" or "someone" to heal you. This approach is deeply rooted in the belief that healing comes from somewhere (or someone) outside of you. It does not.

Did you notice?
The thoughts above all deal with some variation of the same rooted belief: My healing is not in my hands. The challenge? This type of passive approach simultaneously puts you in a victim mindset. (IE: I can't help myself). It fosters a sense of entitlement (they owe me). Sadly, whenever the victim mindset merges with the entitlement mindset, it tends to make a bad situation feel much worse.

But that doesn't have to be your story.

There's a better way. This way allows you to move through the recovery process with all of your self-esteem intact. This way leads you to post-traumatic growth instead of post-traumatic stress. So what is this way? Great question. The answer is coming up next.

The Active Approach

Rather than taking the passive approach, I suggest you take the active approach to your healing and recovery.

So what is the active approach? The active approach is rooted in the belief that healing comes from within. Those that choose to take the active approach healing discover ways of getting in touch with that place within that makes healing possible.

When you Take the Active Approach

Instead of passively suffering, you spend your time actively processing. Instead of believing there's nothing you can do to help yourself, you spend your time actively learning how to help yourself.

Perhaps Most Importantly...

When you take the active approach, you no longer settle for "suppressing or tolerating the hurt and negativity." Instead, you take full control of releasing it completely.

The Key Decision

Now that you know the difference between taking a passive approach vs taking an active "learning" approach, you have a key decision to make. Because it's not a matter of if you will recover—you will. (In that, you can be sure.) The decision is: "How will you recover?"

For Example...

Will you take the passive approach to healing and wait on time and other people to determine the moment of your recovery? I leave that decision up to you.

And while you consider that, also consider this...

You can either hold on to the hurt or you can let the hurt go! But you can't do both. Here's what I mean. When you choose one, you automatically discard the other. So the way I see it...the real question facing you today is this: "Do I want to keep holding on to all of this hurt, or am I ready to let it go?"

And if you're one who's ready to learn what they can do to heal the hurt...

Then I'd like to spend the next few minutes giving you a brief introduction to my home-study for helping betrayed partners like yourself do exactly that. Keep reading and I will share with you why I created it, how it works, what makes it unique, and what you can expect to learn from it — all with an eye towards helping you determine whether or not this course would be helpful to you. So let's begin by exploring what my Betrayed Partner Recovery Home-Study is all about.

LEARNING CHANGES EVERYTHING

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What is my Betrayed Partner

Online Home-Study Online Course?

My Betrayed Partner home-study is an online based, 7-step recovery process, specifically designed and developed to help betrayed partners to recover with the least amount of pain and in the shortest amount of time possible. This course was designed to meet you where you are today and guide you from start to finish through my complete recovery process. You will be following the same path and using the same strategies, tools and tips I have used to guide, coach, coax (and sometimes even nudge) my private clients through the healing and recovery process. Chances are pretty good you will find them helpful.

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The Power
I can honestly tell you, I know of no other online program available today that goes to the same length or depth that these sessions do. This content is not generic advice... but specific to your situation and what you're having to deal with. In other words, all of the tips, tools and strategies that you get didn't come from book theory - but from the 15 years of actual coaching experience I have gained from helping people like you through the infidelity recovery process.
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THE PURPOSE
The purpose behind this recovery home-study was to provide people with an alternative to taking the "passive" approach to healing. Because while I agree that pain after infidelity is normal, I don't agree that prolonging that pain is necessary. And so this course was created to guide you from hurting to healing - and to help you make that shift sooner rather than later.
NOTE: If you're a fan of the passive long-suffering approach, then this course won't be a match for you. Everything I teach is based on the active learning approach. If this kind of approach sounds right for you, then you've come to the right place.
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MY GOAL FOR YOU
By the time you've completed the course...

You'll walk away with the right tools, insights and strategies to help you process and release the negative emotions unleashed by the unfairness of what happened. My goal for you is to have them all permanently gone from your life.
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THE BENEFITS OF TAKING THIS COURSE...
  • Learn better coping tools and better ways to process the pain
  • Get mantras and affirmations you can learn to lower anxiety and manage the obsessing
  • New insights in the nature of deception so you can separate meaning from madness
  • Steps to infidelity-proofing to help ensure this doesn't happen again
  • Learn real-life activities that help to restore trustworthiness
  • Actual steps to true forgiveness

And The Best Part?

Since Betrayed Partner Recovery Home-Study Course 100% online, you can access it immediately and begin right away to take the steps to rebuilding your marriage. You can listen and learn at your own pace... in the privacy and convenience of your home... or take it on the road with you. It works on just about any device, computer, iPad/tablet, or phone.

And just in case you're still hesitant, here are 10 more good reasons to consider my Betrayed Partner Recovery home study online course:
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And listen. If even one of these reasons rings a bell for you, then I believe my Betrayed Partner Recovery home study is worthy of your consideration. Who knows just how quickly hope and healing after betrayal can happen for you?
FINAL THOUGHTS
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Your heart is tender enough to bruise...

but strong enough to push past the hurt. It's delicate enough to suffer but courageous enough to love again. And like that rose bush in the opening story... your heart has the capacity to be trampled on. And rather than break... it too can discover how to break through the pain.

And as you consider that, consider this:
Once a thing has happened, there's no way to go back and prevent it from happening. And so, the past (while painful) is no longer the real problem. The real problem facing you is... How can you best move forward from a painful past while doing everything you can to ensure you never find yourself in this type of painful situation again?
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And finding the answer to that question is (in my opinion) what recovery for the betrayed partner is all about.

And if you feel like you're ready for that answer...

Then I believe that my Betrayed Partner Recovery home-study course can be very helpful in moving you closer to that goal. I invite you to learn more about it here.

Until we speak again...

Remember...

Love Wins!

Suzie's Signature