OBSTACLES STANDING BETWEEN YOU AND RECOVERY
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The First Obstacle
Due to the fact that nothing could have prepared betrayed partners for having been blindsided like this, very few people have a game plan on how they're going to get through it. And this combination of not being prepared and not knowing what to do next is what represents the first obstacle to your recovery.
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The Second Obstacle
Because there's so much conflicting advice on how best to handle the aftermath of infidelity, it can be difficult to tell which to follow. Often, from well-meaning family and friends, it can be very difficult to sort out what's good and what's going to make things worse. And it's this inability to tell the difference between the advice that is truly helpful versus the advice that ends up causing more problems that represents the second biggest obstacle to your recovery.
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And The Third Obstacle
Perhaps the most dangerous are the misconceptions surrounding what it takes for the betrayed partner to truly survive and even thrive after infidelity, and the most dangerous are the myths that suggest that recovery is either a matter of time or a matter of luck.
And Yet I'M here to tell you...

Your healing and survival is not the result of either time or luck. In fact, if you wait on time to heal you, then you must keep in mind that when you're in pain, time moves slowly. And if you're waiting on luck, then you'll waste a lot of time waiting. If you don't want to do that, then you need to be aware that there's a right way and a wrong way to approach your healing after infidelity. Let me explain what I mean.

Right way vs wrong Way

When it comes to healing after betrayal, there are two approaches you can take: you can take the passive approach to healing or you can take the active approach. And one approach is by far more popular than the other. Can you guess which it is? If you said the passive approach to healing, you'd be correct.

What is the passive approach?

The passive approach to healing basically comes down to your waiting on "time" or "someone" to heal you. This approach is deeply rooted in the belief that healing comes from somewhere (or someone) outside of you.

Did you notice?
All those thoughts have some variation of the same belief: my healing is not in my hands. The challenge? This passive approach simultaneously puts you in a victim mindset (I can't help myself) and fosters a sense of entitlement (they owe me). Sadly, when victim mindset and entitlement merge, they tend to make a bad situation feel much worse.

But that doesn't have to be your story.

There is a better way. There is a way that allows you to move through the recovery process with your self-esteem intact and a way that will lead to posttraumatic growth instead of posttraumatic stress. So what is that way? Great question. The answer is coming up next.

The Active Approach

Rather than taking the passive approach, I suggest you take the active approach to your healing and recovery.

So what is the active approach? The active approach is rooted in the belief that healing comes from within, and so you take an active approach to getting in touch with that place within that makes healing possible.

When you Take the Active Approach

Instead of passively suffering, you spend your time actively processing. Instead of believing there's nothing you can do to help yourself, you spend your time actively learning how to help yourself.

Perhaps Most Importantly...

When you take the active approach, you no longer settle for "suppressing or tolerating the hurt and negativity," instead, you'll take full control for releasing it completely.

The Key Decision

Now that you know the difference between taking a passive approach to infidelity recovery and taking an active learning approach, you have a key decision to make. Because it's not a matter of if you will recover—you will. (In that, you can be sure.) The decision is: "how will you recover?"

For Example...

Will you take the passive approach to healing and wait on time and other people to determine the moment of your recovery? I leave that decision up to you.

And while you consider that, also consider this:

You can either hold on to the hurt or you let the hurt go—but you cannot do both. If you choose one, you automatically discard the other. So the way I see it, the real question facing you today is this: Do I want to keep holding on to the hurt, or am I ready to let it go?

And if you're one of those people who's ready to learn what they can do to heal the hurt...

Then I'd like to spend the next few minutes giving you a brief introduction to my Betrayed Partner Recovery home study online course, telling you about how it works, what makes it unique, and what you can expect—all with an eye towards helping you determine whether or not this course would be helpful to you. So let's begin by exploring what my Betrayed Partner Recovery is all about.

LEARNING CHANGES EVERYTHING

(Intro to My Betrayed Partner Recovery home study online course)

What is my betrayed partner

Home study online course?

My Betrayed Partner Recovery home study is a seven-session online course for betrayed partners. This course is designed to meet you where you are today and take you from start to finish through my complete recovery process—following the same path and using the same strategies, tools and tips I have used for the past decade to guide, coach, coax (and sometimes even nudge) my private clients through the healing and recovery process.

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The Power
I can honestly tell you, very few programs go to length and depth that these sessions do. This is not generic; this is specific to you and your situation. In other words, all the tips, tools and strategies don't come from book theory but from over a decade of experience guiding men and women through the recovery process. These are the same strategies used with my private one-on-one clients... to following the same path and using the same strategies, tools and tips I have used for the past decade to guide, coach, coax (and sometimes even nudge) my private clients through the healing and recovery process. Chances are they can help you too.
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THE PURPOSE
The purpose of my Betrayed Partner Recovery home study is to provide an alternative to taking the "passive" approach to your healing because while I agree that pain after infidelity is normal, I don't agree that prolonging that pain is necessary. And so I've created the course to take you step by step from hurting to healing and to help you make that shift sooner rather than later.
NOTE: If you're a fan of the passive long-suffering approach, then this course won't be a match for you. This is because everything I teach is based on the active learning approach. And if that approach sounds right for you, then you've come to the right place.
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MY GOAL FOR YOU
You'll walk with the right tools, insights and strategies to help you process and release the negative emotions unleashed by the unfairness, so they are gone permanently from your life.
So that by the time you've completed the course...
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THE BENEFITS OF TAKING THIS COURSE...
  • Learn better coping tools and better ways to process the pain
  • Get mantras and affirmations you can learn to lower anxiety and manage the obsessing
  • New insights in the nature of deception so you can separate meaning from madness
  • Steps to infidelity-proofing to help ensure this doesn't happen again
  • Learn real-life activities that help to restore trustworthiness
  • Actual steps to true forgiveness

And The Best Part?

Since Betrayed Partner Recovery is an audio course that's 100% online, you can access it immediately and begin right away to take the steps to rebuilding your marriage. You can listen and learn at your own pace in the privacy and convenience of your home or take it on the road with you. It works on any device, computer, iPad/tablet, or phone.

And just in case you're still hesitant, here are 10 more good reasons to consider my Betrayed Partner Recovery home study online course:
Good Reasons
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And listen. If even one of these reasons rings a bell for you, then I believe my Betrayed Partner Recovery home study is worthy of your consideration... because who knows just how quickly hope and healing after betrayal can happen for you?
FINAL THOUGHTS
Roses
Your heart is tender enough to bruise...

but strong enough to push past the hurt. It's delicate enough to suffer but courageous enough to love again. And like that rose bush, your heart also has the capacity to be trampled on. And rather than break, it finds a way to break through the pain.

And as you consider that, consider this:
Once a thing has happened, there's no way to go back and prevent it from happening. And so, the past (while painful) is no longer the real problem. The real problem facing you is: how to move forward from that painful past while doing everything you can to ensure you never find yourself in this type of painful situation again.
Suzie Johnson

And finding the answers to that question is (in my opinion) what recovery for the betrayed partner is all about.

And if you feel like you're ready for that answer...

Then I believe that my Betrayed Partner Recovery home study online course can be very helpful in moving you closer to that goal, and I invite you to learn more about it here.

Until we speak again...

Remember...

Love Wins!

Suzie's Signature