Happiness After Infidelity
Overcoming Infidelity
The Astonishing Power of True Forgiveness
I believe you found this web site by the greatest of good fortune. Even if you find it hard to believe... there IS a remedy (and relief) for the pain and suffering you have been feeling.
Let me reassure you…
THERE IS HOPE!
My name is Suzie Johnson. It’s become my life’s work to help guide couples in crisis, conflict and confusion…back to love, peace and relationship happiness.
To say this is a sensitive, delicate process would be a huge understatement! Yet contrary to what many people believe, the return to love, peace and happiness is not nearly as difficult as most would imagine.
While it's true the pain infidelity unleashes is devastating it's equally as true that allowing yourself continuous suffering is optional.
Here’s the beautiful truth…
The question is not IF you will heal and return to love – but WHEN.
WHAT MOST PEOPLE DON’T KNOW
It’s not the injustice, deceit or disappointment of an affair that creates the majority of suffering. It is the unwillingness to let go.
Put another way. It's not the situation - it's YOUR response to it that is keeping you stuck.
Regardless of how much crying, begging, threatening, bargaining and bullying you do…the return to love, peace and harmony within your relationship can only come through ONE DOOR. Can you guess what that door is?
It’s the door of TRUE forgiveness.
THE ASTONISHING POWER OF TRUE FORGIVENESS
 As you know, there are plenty of compelling reasons to choose NOT to allow yourself to “forgive and forget”. After all, who can justify the pain, the suffering, the guilt, the deception or the havoc unleashed by infidelity?
Surprisingly, well meaning friends, family members, and even the media…may give you a long list of reasons why anger, spite, bitterness and revenge are the natural (and justified) response.
However…
I want you to consider one very important fact. Even though reacting to the pain of betrayal with anger, hatred and bitterness might feel like the right response at first, but continuing to react that way, is like trying to put out a fire by spraying it with gasoline.
Key Point: Vengeful emotions will never lead you to peace or happiness.
Vengeance can’t right a wrong. Bitterness won't change the past. And unforgiveness can’t prevent a re-occurrence again in the future.
Does that make sense?
It's interesting...
Why would anyone want to hold on to negative emotions (like vengeance and hate) when they know there is no way in the world (doing so) could possibly help their situation?
Here’s what I believe:
I'm convinced...it's because so many of us have an "upside down" understanding about forgiveness. A lot of people believe, "By holding on to the hurt, pain and bitterness... they gain power over the person and situation. Actually nothing could be further from the truth. It actually makes them powerless.
What makes forgiving difficult for so many people? read page 2 of 3
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The Astonishing Power 
