What does this other woman see in my man? He’s nothing to write home about. He’s an ex-convict, he’s not a financial catch, he lies, and he’s not shown himself to be trustworthy — either to me or to her — and yet, she still won’t leave him alone. I just don’t understand it.
Thank you for the opportunity to serve. Let’s go through your questions, slowly and step-by-step.
You wrote: “What does this other woman see in my man?”
Well, the best way to answer that question is by asking another one: What do YOU see in him???
You’ve listed a lot of undesirable qualities in this man that surely would scare off the average woman, and yet… he’s still in your life. You’ve had hundreds more reasons to walk away from him, and you still allow him to walk in and out of your life.
I wonder why this is?
Notice, I’m shifting the focus from “the other woman” to you. The reason? Because it’s not important what she sees in him; what’s important here is what you see in him because those are the things that keep you IN the relationship. And those are the things that make him worth fighting for.
Here’s another thing:
All the things on that list are his behaviors. But you and I know that you love a person for way more than his behavior. Yes, it seems this man has his shortcomings. He’s definitely flawed, and yet, you haven’t left. So this tells me you see past those things. You see something deeper. And it’s that something deeper that speaks to your heart.
Until we speak again…
Remember… Love Wins!