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Ashley Madison Hacked – Should I Check My Husband’s Email?

Since I found out about the Ashley Madison hack, I have been sick to my stomach. Last year, I discovered that my husband had been chatting with several women in online dating sites, a couple of which he eventually met in real life. He swears that he didn’t do anything, just met them for drinks. Since then, we’ve been through counseling, and we have been through your Happiness After Infidelity couples home-study course which helped us tremendously, and I can honestly say that things have been better than before. My problem is that I have an intuition that he had an account on that site. I feel like I should check to see if his email is on the list. I want to know if he had met women from there, but I am also afraid to find out and have it end up ruining the progress we’ve made so far. What should I do? Thank you for the opportunity to serve. I believe your question is not only a timely one, but also a complicated one. On the one hand, you admit that you’ve made progress since the discovery. By your own account, things are better in the marriage than before...

Has my relationship lost its beauty?

I have been with my girlfriend for three years. About six months ago, just after I had decided to propose, she cheated on me. I never thought she would do such a thing. It's like our relationship has lost all its beauty and its purity. It's like our relationship is now sullied, fouled, desecrated. Can it ever be beautiful again? Is it not inferior to..