Suzie, I know I need to forgive, but I don’t know exactly how to forgive. It seems like every time I think I have forgiven, something comes up and I find myself angry and hurting all over again. What should I do? —Lisa P. Dear Lisa, There’s a difference between true forgiveness and suppressing pain.
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How to Forgive Infidelity
Dear Suzie, I don’t believe my wife should ever be forgiven. She knew exactly what she was doing. I’ve been faithful for the past 17 years. Why is it that she should be the one that cheats and gets away with it, and I’m the one that is supposed to be noble and forgive it?
Dear Suzie, My husband is begging me to forgive him (if not for him, for the sake of the children). But I was raised to believe that if a man cheats once, he’ll cheat again. If I forgive him, won’t that just confirm that he can do whatever he wants to me and get away
Dear Suzie, My best friend’s husband cheated on her more than 3 years ago, and even though they are still together, she has never forgiven him. I love my friend, but I am tired of hearing about how bad her husband is for what he did and how he hurt her. I try to help,
What Exactly Is True Forgiveness? It’s been described in many ways. Here’s my favorite definition: true forgiveness is allowing the past to be truly over in your mind. Here are some of the attributes of true forgiveness: It’s permanent and lasting. It’s total and complete. It releases BOTH the giver and the receiver. It’s an
Dear Suzie, Although my marriage did not survive and even though it’s been years, I still feel bitter and angry at how selfish and mean my ex-husband is, and how he let his urges destroy what we had. I still have thoughts of revenge and getting even with him. Even though I know it just
What You Should Know About Suppressing Vs. Forgiving Often, people think when they’re asked to forgive, it means they’re being asked to find ways to rationalize what happened. But rationalizations and excuses aren’t necessary for true forgiveness. In fact, you only need to rationalize if you plan to suppress, not forgive. And as I’ve pointed out, suppressing
Dear Suzie, My husband keeps telling me I need to let it go. And days will go by when I feel that I truly have forgiven. But then something will trigger my anger. He’ll say something or I’ll hear something on TV, and it just brings it all back again. I know I can’t continue
Suzie, I feel like I really want to forgive my fiancée, but no matter how hard I try, I can’t seem to forgive her. I just can’t get past what she did. After all, she lied to my face over and over again. I would like to continue our relationship, but every time I think about what
Dear Suzie, I believe that forgiveness is important in helping me to heal and get past this, but a lot of people don’t agree. Many of my friends say they would never forgive, and a lot of experts say it’s not even necessary. So now, I am confused. How important is it to forgive someone