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9 Common Myths About Trust After Infidelity

Here’s one of my favorite stories…

Once upon a time, there was a very wise old woman who would walk from town to town across the countryside. She was very poor in the material world. She had only the tattered clothes on her back and a basket with one piece of bread and one piece of dried meat. But in that basket, she also had another thing: she had a pure pink diamond, at that time the largest diamond ever found.

One day, she was sitting by a river when another beggar came by.

Seeing her and spying her food, he begged her to share her meager rations with him. The old woman immediately complied and tore her one slice of bread in half and her one piece of meat in half and shared them with him. When she opened her basket to retrieve the items, he spied the diamond and his eyes grew wide and round with greed. He asked her to give him the diamond instead of the food, and the old woman immediately did so.

The beggar left quickly in glee, clutching the diamond tightly in his hand. 

He went running like mad toward the nearest town, his hunger forgotten. He couldn’t believe his luck and the naiveté of the old woman. But as he started to think about what had really happened, his running slowed to a walk. The more he thought about it, the more his walking slowed, and he stopped walking altogether and began to sincerely review his whole life and everything that had passed him by.

Out of the blue…

A well of tears sprang to his eyes, and humility he had never felt before rushed in to take the place of greed. 

With reverence in his heart, he returned to the river and said to the old woman, “I’ve been thinking, and I know how valuable the diamond is, but I give it back in the hope that you can give me something even more precious. Please give me what you have within you that enabled you to give me the stone.” So what was it that the wise woman had within her that even the beggar could see… was more precious than diamonds?

If you said trust, you’d be absolutely right.

As the beggar found out, the ability to trust is more valuable than all the gold, diamonds, and pearls on the planet. Those who have trust have the true riches of life. And the opposite is also true. Those who lack trust, even if they have everything else, are still poor because they lack one of the key ingredients to a happy life.

Which brings us to why you are here.

If you’re like most of my readers… somewhere in your recent past, something happened to you that was so painful, so traumatic, so disappointing, and so unpleasant that it ruined your ability to trust. And maybe after living in the shadows of mistrust, you’ve finally come to recognize (like the beggar in the story) that a life without trust is unbearable. If this sounds like you, then you’ve come to the right place because in the next few minutes, I’m going to help you remove some of the biggest obstacles standing in the way, so you can regain the trust you lost.

Let’s begin that process by answering a very important question…