What Does The Return To Love And Intimacy Feel Like?
That’s a very good question. Here’s how the return to love feels:
Imagine peace and certainty quietly returning to your heart. Imagine looking back and feeling gratitude for your mistakes. Imagine yourself no longer exiled like the prodigal son, but rather, feeling welcomed in your home like an honored guest… all made possible by the return of trust and respect.
Now here’s how the return to intimacy feels:
Imagine kissing each other deeply like honeymooners. Imagine feeling a deeper sense of connection to your partner than ever before. Imagine looking into their eyes as they glow like candles. Imagine touching, hugging, cuddling and holding each other… not wanting to let go. Imagine passion rekindled, romance and adventure reignited. Now the best part… imagine this is only the beginning.
Does that sound good to you?
Do you want things to be better than they were before? Do you want to take things to another level? Above all, do you want to make sure that your mistake doesn’t break the relationship but help it break through to becoming a better relationship? If that sounds like you… I understand your heart’s desire. I understand the powerful yearning to know that you’re loved, wanted, and welcomed back home. And it’s because I understand this desire that I’m honored to help you pave the way.
Let me caution you, however.
Rekindling love and intimacy after infidelity is NOT easy —
especially when it was your actions that derailed it in the first place. But I have faith that you’re looking for what’s effective and not just what appears to be quick and easy. So beware. If you’re impatient with this process, it will only slow you down.
Here’s a story to help you understand what I mean.
Once upon a time, there lived a great martial arts master. A young man who had heard of the master traveled for seven days to become a disciple of the famous sensei. During their initial meeting, the new student asked earnestly, “Sensei, I am devoted to studying your martial arts system. How long will it take me to master it?”
The teacher’s reply was casual. “Ten years,” he said.
Impatiently, the student pleaded “But Sensei, I want to master it faster than that. I will work very hard. I will practice every day, ten or more hours a day if I have to. How long will it take then?”
The teacher thought for a moment before answering, “Twenty years.”
The point of the story is this:
Rekindling intimacy after betrayal is a process. It can’t be forced. The steps can’t be rushed. The more impatience you bring to the process… the longer it will take.
Key Point: Rekindling Love and intimacy requires the following three Ps:
If the thought of all this makes you feel frustrated or impatient, remember you have other options:
- You could find another teacher.
- You could find another process.
But you should know this…
Much like the new martial arts student, you’re going to discover that with patience, you will get there in time; with impatience, it will take you twice as long.
So, are you ready to learn?
Great! Let’s begin with a question.
What’s your definition of relationship happiness?
Here’s my favorite definition: relationship happiness means “wanting the relationship you have and having the relationship you want.”
Would you say this saying rings true for you? Do you have the relationship you want? And do you want the relationship you have? If you do, then your path will be easier. You see, the very fact that you have what you want means you’re extremely motivated to keep it. This motivation is going to make a huge difference in the days to come. What follows are my seven secrets to help you rekindle love and intimacy after the affair. When these tips are mixed with a motivated heart, they can literally move mountains.
Let’s begin that countdown now.