My name is Alison and my husband had an affair for 4 months. I was totally devastated and felt my whole world was destroyed. I decided to check the internet for help and found Suzie's website. I loved the fact that just her website that was free, was so very informative. It truly was a wealth of information and answered a lot of questions that I had, and validated feelings that I was having. My husband found it also very helpful for himself. I thought what the heck, I would try one session with Suzie. Well, our phone meeting with Suzie was truly amazing. We were offered 12 week coaching plan and found out about the cost. We decided this was something that would be incredibly helpful in our relationship and that would be priceless. We decided that we wanted to be together and wanted to do whatever it took to have more of Suzie's help. We have completed the 12 weeks and our relationship is in a state that I love. I am grateful for the tools that I have learned to apply to my daily living in every aspect of my life. I have learned to love, be truly forgiving, live in the moment, and to look to the good in everything. We believe that Suzie is a blessing and am very thankful for. We also believe that we would not be where we are in our relationship without her guidance.
Suzie, I honestly don't know what I would have done if I didn't find your site on the internet this past Spring. (slight variation: "You find what you need to know when you need to know it!") Thank you for helping me make sense of this chaos and paste my shattered self back together! Wishing you the Best - Always!
We would like to upgrade to Marriage Rehab. (please charge our card on file) I am just starting out with the Betrayed Partner recovery course and have only finished the First Aid session. I have also explored Suzie's goasksuzie.com website. Her message of hope and forgiveness for one's own growth, for the wellness of the self and of the family, and, if possible, also salvaging the marriage, is presented in a logical, realistic, and (in my estimation) comprehensive way.
This is what lead me to purchase the Betrayed Partner bundle after reading much of what's available on her website. So much of what she says just somehow "rings true" for me and is insightful and logical. She seems to blend respect for the wonder of life with respect for and acknowledgement of the realities of the situations, emotions, etc that I find myself confronting at this time of extreme challenge in my life.
She is clear about the things that she believes must be done, and leaves the rest open as the choice of the individual. This instills confidence and trust. I have recognized that forgiveness is central to my recovery from this experience, and have been looking for a way to accomplish and experience true forgiveness, not superficial or limited forgiveness or a mere denial of pain or events. It looks like her resources can be a guide to doing just that.
My husband and I are looking forward to incorporating all of her sessions into our individual and relationship healing processes. Thank you again for your attentiveness and amazing customer care.
Hi Suzie! You may not remember us, but we (Jack and Nora) were the cattle ranching couple from Colorado. We purchased your Marriage Rehab and did a session with you about a year ago. We are still together, and madly in love once again! If it is possible, we would love to briefly Skype with you sometime to say THANK YOU "in person" (but we don't want to take up any of your valuable time from other couples who need you). If not, we want to say you are incredible (!) and you helped us to get back in touch with our authentic selves so we could get our marriage back on track. Thank you, thank you, thank you. God bless!
Hi Suzie, Your site has been "extremely helpful" to me and I'm forever grateful for this service. I am married and had an affair with my "good friend"'s boyfriend (now fiancé) on and off for several years now. I always struggled with the guilt and betraying my friend. I attempted numerous times to end the affair only to run back into his arms. After reading the articles on your site and going through your End of the Affair program (twice), I broke free about a month ago. Thank you so much!
My husband and I have found goasksuzie to be extremely helpful so far. I would (and have) recommended this site to all my friends who are having these types of issues. Thank you.
Hi Suzie, We wish you and yours a beautiful Thanksgiving and Christmas Season! We are Thankful for you helping people like us, ... who 'walked into ....pure hell ... and are trying to find our way back to the 'real love and respect' we had for each other. We are making progress... I know we still do love each other. I hope our love can handle all this necessary 'shaking off the dirt' that spit upon us, during his 'affairs-escape-rides'. And so many other affairs I am certain he has had and will not yet or ever admit - Thank you Suzie, for being available to help us find our way back to some sort of peace of mind. You are what we are most Thankful for. Your passion to help others is a gift we all will take with us and be grateful for....no matter what the outcome is. Thank you so much!
Thank you Suzie... my husband cheated on me for 4 long years. I knew, I saw the red flags but I didn't realize there was such a term as "emotional affair". I thought it was just a strong physical attraction and it will go away. When I felt uncomfortable about the situation, I called the other woman and asked her why she is ruining my marriage. I asked my husband what I have done to deserve this? They finally stopped calling and seeing each other for a little more than a year now. I am still hurting. I still feel betrayed. I am now in shock, knowing that it was a full blown emotional affair. I feel so empty, but after reading your blog, I promised myself not to remain a victim; I will work on being the survivor. I want to go straight, not drive around in circles. You have been a great help. Its like you were talking to me directly. I was not reading, I was listening to you. Thank you for giving me the choices and widening my field of vision.
I am sooooo loving the home study sessions!! They have helped so much!! Even though these revolve around infidelity, which there hasn't been in our marriage, they are perfect for any situation. I have needed to learn to forgive and let go for most of my life!! I am 41 years old and hadn't learned this. It is amazing and is saving my sanity!! Thank you so much!! Love her voice, its so soothing and relaxing!! I just let a Doctor friend of my review to one of your sessions, Healing the Hurt, he is so inspired. He has had so much hate for his ex-wife, whom he has talked badly about in front of their kids. I stopped him and said to him he needed to let it go and forgive her, he was so angry and wouldn't look at me... within 1 hr, after listening to her, he is empowered and on your website now wanting more! Wanting to purchase anything he can of hers..... His name is (deleted for privacy). I'm sure you will be hearing from him shortly. Just wanting to give you the heads up. :-) Anyway, wanted you to know how much I am loving these programs!! Thank you! Thank you!
The End of the Affair was a God-send! It was VERY helpful. Love the Quiet 10 program. It's helping me sleep better. I felt the way the program was outlined was helpful for me in that it started off identifying the emotional affair and how damaging and disruptive it still is even though it is in the mind. Also, realizing how I was vulnerable to this. I thought also the steps to overcome this were awesome too - especially kicking this person out of my mind and raising the rent! I am going to review the program a few more times. I have ALOT of inner work to do. I have been friends with this man in my life for 25 years! The last year it did cross the line. Thanks so much for you help!
Thank you, also , for creating the website. It's truly a gift from God and your content is unparalleled.
Suzie, we both have the greatest respect for you. God Bless and keep you in the palm of his hand - because that's how you made us feel while we were blindly trusting you to help us though this most devastating period of our lives, while maintaining privacy. Your keen understanding, caring attitude, profound spiritual and spot on intellectual wisdom, still continue to resonate within us. You are truly a gifted person and Coach. Thank you so very much.
I have to say I'm so glad I found this series. I was super skeptical of the cost and also I'm surprised that I can't find any third-party reviews of the program and website out there on the Internet. As a "modern consumer" I am used to beginning every purchase by first looking at the reviews whether this is on yelp, Amazon, consumer reports or any other verifiable unbiased site. This made it difficult for me to make the initial purchase of the Wayward Rehab online workshop, but since my partner seems to be in agreement about how helpful your site has been for her - I registered for the course and have now gone through the first hour. I'm already impressed - as well as uplifted - by the information contained within. I guess what I'm saying is it would be nice to somehow figure out a way to get some reviews out there. Thank you for creating such a helpful program!
Thank you so much Suzie... for everything. I was in tears today, but your articles and coaching sessions on ending the affair really help me. I appreciate the help more than words can express. Thank you!
Thank you for talking with me yesterday. I found it very helpful. I just tried to book another session, and you do not have anything until next Wednesday. Is there anything sooner? Please let me know if you have an earlier time to talk.
Hi Brad, I just wanted to thank you again for your quick response with helping me find my password to access my home-study programs. Your website and coaching tools are extremely helpful in my life. I went through the whole program again yesterday and today (again!) and I wanted to let you and Suzie know that they were such a great help. Words can't even describe how thankful I am for having found Suzie's website when I did. Thank you Again!!!!
Another day of lifesaving wisdom from Suzie Johnson Phew!!! The insights contained in Wayward Rehab is the best, smartest, most effective information I've read or listened to - really well done. Thank you so much!! So grateful to have found this resource.
Good morning Suzie! It's funny but by reading so much on your site and going through the Marriage Rehab course, I feel like I already know you, and I want to tell you that your advice is so helpful to me. If not for finding your site I would have not made the progress I have made since finding out about my husbands affair. He feels the same way. Truly, we thank you for all that you do.
I'm writing just to share that my husband and I have used many of Suzie's session from her Marriage Rehab online workshop, and have also been seeing a counselor regularly for nearly the past year. In addition to this, I have found an appetite for reading and listening to teachings of several great thinkers and spiritual teachers of our time. It is not in any way an overstatement to say that Suzie is without a doubt among them - she is so much more than a marriage coach, and I know that I have been blessed to have found her work right when I so desperately needed to hear, embrace and incorporate it into my internal life and my interactions with those around me. My family is much stronger and healthier for it, and I am grateful for a new start and newfound empowerment to make good and healthy choices, listen to and know and like myself better, to set boundaries, and to be gentler and stronger at the same time. Forgiveness has been a very hard process, and every time I feel myself letting go more, embracing that forgiveness more - knowing that self trust was the biggest element by far that was tangled up in all that old emotional baggage - I know that learning from and being encouraged and inspired by Suzie's teachings and warm approach is what has made the difference. Everyone of us is a work in progress and paradoxically very much a good person at the same time. It is in allowing ourselves to trust enough to see that we are fundamentally good and whole, and to peel back all the maladaptive layers we've packed on top over the years, that we can approach and return again and again to that state of peace, community, and well being with the self and others. Awareness can be a hard and a beautiful thing. Please send Suzie my heartfelt gratitude for her most enlightened and beautiful, so very intelligent, kind and wise, work. She is without a doubt a rare combination of intellectual and spiritual genius and gifted counselor who, through her words alone, can provide the presence of a loving and accepting friend.
Thank you so much!! I have been having an emotional affair with a man I met for about a year now. I told him, and he reciprocated, that we were in love, should mates, we had found something amazing. But I was miserable. MISERABLE! It became a day to day struggle and we had so many ups and downs it was amazing we even stayed together, but we "loved" one another so much we'd always find our way back. After a series of events, mostly emotional, I ended things with him today. On a whim actually, I just new it was the right thing to do but had been so afraid to do it. I wasn't happy. When I got home, I cried like I had lost my husband and then I got online and found your program on ending the affair and wow, I honestly feel amazing. I was wondering how I would make it through this and if I had made a wrong decision but now....I'm not even sure I loved him. Cared for, sure, but maybe not love as the pure sense. Infatuation. And I am ashamed that I spent a year sneaking around with a married man, us sharing intimacies our spouses definitely wouldn't approve of, and for being so silly as to think this was real love. Thank you, you've healed my heart and I thought it would take months your get over this. I'm not over it, but I am so on my way. Thank you for helping me get my life back!!!
Hi Suzie, Many thanks! My name is Susan, been married for 22 years & recently discovered my husband was having an emotional affair with someone he was 'mentoring'. This has been one of the hardest things I had to face in my life & as we all know it's something you can NEVER prepare for... In my darkest moments a friend recommended I search the internet for some help. On my own, on holiday, in a total state of anguish, despair & obsession, knowing full well that my husband was still in contact with her, even after he promised to DNC, I browsed the Net & found your site. THANK YOU! Thank you for making it free, available & so honest. Over the past few weeks I have read all your articles & have to say that somehow, in each one of them, I found relevance to me & my situation: even as the ' betrayed spouse', I found sections in the 'wayward partner' & the 'affair partner' that resonated with me & helped me on the road to recovery, forgiveness & healing on a personal level. Your articles have kept me sane & comforted throughout my most desperate moments. Although to this date, my husband refuses all options of help, advice or to make the choices he needs to make to move forward, I still believe that Love wins. I will continue trying to get him to read your articles-I know he'll find the resolution he needs through the understanding that he's NOT alone & there's always help out there-all you need to do is ask... Here's hoping, always hoping that he'll want to win my heart back... Many thanks again, All my love, Susan xxx
Wow, this is the most amazing customer service! Yes, please upgrade me. Thank you for your help and wonderful service.
Suzie is amazing. If she can't get through to someone I don't think anyone can.
To the others out there: What can I say? My life was in shambles and the slew of bad choices I had made left me empty and miserable. In trying to save my marriage, I came upon Suzie on the web, and it was as if someone had left a light on in the dark. Desperate for any help. I booked a 60-minute call. Just in that first hour, I knew I found the help my wife and I needed. It was if she knew me. And her frankness and compassion made me feel at ease and open. More so, her philosophy and knowledge was unparalleled, I led my wife to her, and both of us got this feeling, not of a counselor, but of a friend. Suzie helped us down the road that would save our marriage. And I say help, not LEAD!!! Because, while she is there for you with knowledge and understanding, it is you that must do the work. The work is the key. And all I can say is that she will definitely help you get the answers you are looking for. Trust her and her method, everything she does has a reason, everything there has a purpose. Be open and honest and you will discover yourself, I know I did. Our sessions helped both my wife and I open up, and I truly think it helped me discover things about myself that I spent too long ignoring and hiding. The work is not over, but I know that Suzie has helped me lay a firm foundation for my wife and I to continue along the road to recovery and ultimate happiness. Just the change between us over the past couple months has been amazing, considering where we were when my infidelity came to light. I truly believe that without Suzie’s help, we would have gone our separate ways and lost what was and still is a great love. Beyond everything, Suzie truly cares. And you feel it from the first time you talk to her. Her warmth, generosity and kindness are only matched by her knowledge and understanding of people. You truly will feel like she has known you your whole life. I know now how everything in this life is connected. Something I’m afraid I had forgotten. I thank the powers that be that that connection brought me to Suzie, and back to my love, my Wife.
Thank you so much! The program has been my lifeline and already has helped tremendously. Can't wait for my husband to begin! Thanks much!
I have been married for 7 years. During this time I have had proof of my husband flirting on social media. Recently my intuition was telling me something is not right. So I investigated and managed to get a recording of him telling someone he missed them & was thinking of them. This revelation has torn my world apart... but what hurts most is that I have confronted my husband without the recordings & he refuses to admit & says to show him the proof. His phone is locked & on silent & recently he looked through mine to see if he found the proof. Your website has been a saving grace for me. Before I would have argued, but I am drawing strength & wisdom from your website and I have asked him to leave. He has packed his clothes & put them in garage but he hasn't moved. I have purchased your betrayed partner home study. I have also sent links for the wayward rehab course to my husband. I feel like your website and programs are truly heaven sent. It's okay to share my recommendation on your website. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my message. God bless!
Dear Suzie, First of all, I want to thank you for your amazingness! I don't think there would be any hope left for my relationship if I hadn't discovered you and your brilliant online coaching programs. And I am speaking from a lot of experience with majorly traumatic episodes in my life. Through all of those experiences I have researched and read profusely about the matters I was dealing with and psychological and spiritual approaches to dealing with them. This latest trauma of betrayal has been no different, and you are clearly THE expert in my view. Your voice, your language, your vision, your understanding, your compassion, even your Caribbean accent, all work together to form the perfect guidance for all parties involved in the affair. So thank you with all my heart.
I just want to thank you for squeezing me in with Suzie today. She is amazing. She is a great listener, so down to earth, knowledgeable and I am looking forward to talking with her again. I have already learned a lot from her Wayward Rehab sessions. But talking with her made a big difference with me today.
I cannot BEGIN to tell you what a help Suzie's home study sessions have been. I was very skeptical in the beginning and a little put off by the price, but ultimately, it was worth every penny. THANK YOU!
I want to say that after only a day of going through End of the Affair... I was knocked out by how much insight and sense was contained within Suzie's coaching. Everything she said was "so spookily me", even the examples from other clients ! Still, that makes me realize I'm symptomatic of what many people go through, so it's just like an addiction, as Suzie says. After listening I actually realized I was often more anxious, needy about what my affair partner might be thinking about me, or why she didn't text, call etc etc than happy. Weirdly , in retrospect, Suzie made me realize I was miserable and had handed over all my power. The 10-minute guided meditation session is subtle - I just listened a few times but next morning I felt curiously free for the first time in a LONG time.
Three months ago, I had learned that my husband was and still is having an affair. I was absolutely devastated, hurt, angry and could not get over the thoughts of being betrayed and constantly lied to by the one person in my life who I trusted more than anyone else in the world. I could not sleep, eat and as a result, lost 12 pounds. I had constant nightmares of my husband and his mistress. I was stuck between a rock and a hard place and felt that I had no place to go. The negative vibes, crying, nagging and bad energy that I unintentionally allowed to surface drove my husband and I further apart. We sought the help of numerous online programs, books, 1 coach, 1 hypnotist and 3 counselors but found ourselves stagnant and not getting anywhere. Recently, I came across the Goasksuzie website and ordered the home study course for betrayed partners. I went through it twice in its entirety. After the second time, I felt an honest calming feeling in my stomach. I realized that it was not the affair itself that brought all this suffering to me but MY image that I attached to the event. For the first time in 3 months, I was able to get a good night sleep and felt much more relaxed.
Hi Suzie! I wanted to thank you so very much for our call last Tuesday. It REALLY was helpful in a number of ways. You just don’t know. Thank you again for all that you do. Our sessions have been more valuable than I can express. You truly are a phenomenal person and coach. (and that's from me and Matthew)
I believe that nothing that happens in this world is a coincidence. It was by the grace of God that I found Suzie Johnson during one of the most challenging and difficult experiences of my life. My husband of 15 years betrayed my trust by having sex with another woman whom he known for only a couple days. I found out in a very shocking and hurtful way and was suffering tremendous emotional and mental pain when I found Suzie Johnson’s website. I was desperately scouring the internet for information about how to deal with infidelity when I found her words. Words that I so desperately needed to hear. It was as if my higher self was speaking to me through her words. Forgiveness – this was the word that jumped off the computer screen at me and the idea that caught my soul’s attention. Suzie points out on her website that true forgiveness is a sign of intelligence, strength and maturity. Despite my immense sadness and anger -- that was who I wanted to be. At that moment I knew I wanted to attempt the path of true forgiveness and felt an immediate feeling of relief in just the idea of it. My husband and I worked with Suzie for 8 weeks with a customized program that aimed to facilitate true forgiveness and passion. She provided us with real-life tools and exercises followed up with phone sessions where she was able to provide insight and encouragement that really helped both my husband and I to become introspective and accomplish important life’s work individually and as a couple. The homework assignments and exercises made us accountable not only to each other but to her as a life coach. This, I believe is an important aspect of the program because whenever you are trying to accomplish something new or challenging in your life it is helpful to be accountable to someone other than yourself. Words cannot express the true value that her life coaching has brought to our individual lives and our relationship together. We have both experienced invaluable realizations while working with Suzie that we will continue to draw upon our whole lives. Everyone has their own special gifts to bring to this world. I am so grateful for her gifts and the difference they have made in my life.
Many thanks I logged in and have listened avidly to Suzie. I feel truly better. She explained everything so well. I saw what I now need to do. I shall listen again in the morning. Thank you for your wonderful, powerful help. Love Sophie
Good Morning Bradley, Thank you (and Suzie) so much for this, I can't remember the last time someone did something as nice as this for me. I'm so lost, with the aftermath of this. I wish I had someone without judgment to talk to. I don't have any friends I feel comfortable enough to talk with about what happened... only family, and they are bias to my situation and frankly tired of hearing about it. They either want me to move on, or forgive! That simple. I needed help in forgiving and moving forward to save my relationship. I was completely upside down on my way of thinking. Suzie's sessions on forgiveness and healing have helped tremendously - to better manage the negative thoughts that run through my head. Warmest Regards! "Change your thoughts and you change your world. " ~Norman Vincent Peale
It was a great session I had with Suzie, more than exceeded my expectations and was of great help. Thank you very much for organizing this and I will definitely book some more coaching with her.
Suzie... Pat yourself on the back... I am not dependent on anyone and although lonely... Can happily survive on my own... This was never the case before coaching. I want Linda to be okay more than anything... I want her to want us and our family but I now know I can and will survive if we split up. I have looked after family, business, food, school, ironing, etc etc... Not perfect but work hard and can survive. I WANT Linda but don't NEED her... This is thanks to Suzie and my hard work (Alec takes some credit lol). That said... I love Linda... Never understood how much until all this so actually although the worst time of my life.... I know I am a survivor. I have more friends now I have coped and succeeded at being a dad I support the wife without smothering I listen... Not dictate And as Linda said last night... I used to fly off the handle FIRST then calm down after... Now I think before action. Thanks Suzie... Don't worry... I also take credit... but just want you to know that you showed me how to do it.
1. Never violate free will
2. Never cause harm to others
3. Everything is a choice
4. People need to decide for themselves
5. Dolphin effect
6. I don't always know best.... Different people process differently
7. Listen.... Understand and don't judge
Thanks Suzie x
I didn't want to call cause I was embarrassed but found the coaching sessions so hopeful I had to reach out. I just wanted to say thanks to you and Suzie.. I think I would loose my mind without these coaching sessions.. I have been to a lot of counseling but having the recordings is even more helpful as I can stop listening to my own inner destructive voice and listen to Suzie.. I go to them whenever I start spiraling with anxiety and helps so much.. Best $199 I have spent for self help and development.. I have also had a bad history with relationships in general and has helped to change my overall paradigm. So from the bottom of my heart... thanks to you both.
Thank you. I really appreciate your going the extra mile. Suzie must get a ton of email and other communication but I hope you'll let her know that that I, only 11 days post-discovery of the affair, already feel more hopeful, more connected to things I can do to help myself. I'm not out of the woods yet but I see a light and for that this is money extremely well spent. Please send my regards and gratitude. :-)
Good morning, Bradley! We have been able to access the Marriage Rehab programs. I am really, really impressed with her knowledge and how she presents her material.What I like about Suzie's courses is that the presentation is concise, methodical and structured. You don't have to go through 20 minutes of content just to get a 5 sentence sound bite. Each minute is easy to follow and meaty. Definitely "got the beef" in this! Very helpful. Tell Suzie thank you for making such an amazing resource. :) Cheers!
Greetings from the UK Suzie. I am extremely impressed with your courses so far. They have helped me to achieve a state of mind that I couldn't believe possible for me - in only a few days ago. I'm now upgrading to the complete collection as I think these will really help us both and our relationship to no end! Thank you.
Thanks to you guys for responding so quickly all the time. You really do have a great approach and cannot tell you how much it is appreciated.
I'm so grateful you recommended the 90-minute session with Suzie. We actually ended up going a little overtime which I really really appreciated. I think I got a lot out of this session. Suzie is magic. Her Wayward Rehab course continues to be very helpful as well. Thank you!! There will be a lot of work and challenges coming up to me in the next months but I am ready to face them. Again I'm very glad I made the choice to consult with Suzie. Please let her know that I'm very grateful for her insight and advice. Hope you guys have a great weekend. (it's labour day weekend up here in Canada)
Thank you for your insight and assistance today. I'm so grateful to have given myself permission to begin to forgive myself for my behavior. I took a two hour hike in the woods in the rain today and emerged with a sense of gratitude and renewed hope for my future. I will surely continue to learn how to be my best self, but I feel I am definitely on my way. Your work is important, and I'm so thankful for your coaching.
Suzie was amazing! We were very awestruck actually conversing with her after spending so much of our recent life listening to her voice through our Marriage Rehab lessons. We found her session very helpful and thought provoking, so much so that I have just booked a Skype session towards the end of the month. Thank you again for all you and Suzie do!
Brad, Is there a way to share this with Suzie? I just want to say THANK YOU. She's the first person to breakthrough the pain of my spouse's affair. What he did hurt terribly. I started self destructing and giving up hope. I hated him and his lover. She lived with us for awhile after the tornado-and this affair started before that time. A part of me died to learn this was going on two years, during the time that I was completing my master's degree and helping people in disaster recovery full time. She acted like she was my "friend" and he brought her to live with us knowing they were already having an affair. Unbelievable. I sat in a cemetery two Saturdays ago thinking about life and death, and I parked near an angel statue and played Suzie's session on forgiveness. I think I played it 5 times before it started to sink in. As I looked across from me I saw a tree, with what appeared to be 2 broken hearts. In that moment, I realized that maybe my husband was deeply hurting to have turned to another woman and he's probably hurting now from the fallout of his poor choice. Because of Suzie's Quiet 10, I have reclaimed sanity and serenity, and my anxiety attacks have lessened. I still hurt sometimes, but it's not the sharp searing hurt and fury that I felt two months ago after learning what they did. I wrote notes from everything I read on her site, and what jumps off the page is that there isn't anything that love won't forgive (paraphrase). She challenges me to be a godly woman. She calms my nerves and helps me to find peace. I am able to walk in true forgiveness towards my husband and his mate. I don't know that we'll remain married, but that doesn't matter. We can move forward in peace and with respect and dignity. Big hugs. I will recommend her to my Mom who is still reeling and bitter from my Dad's affair more than 36 years ago, and my friends who are walking through the fallout of their spouses' affairs. God is using you mightily to bless and heal us. THANK YOU, SUZIE.
Please let Suzie know that I greatly appreciate her series on how to end an affair. Taking her advice to heart saved my life, my family, my career and my financial future. I couldn't seem to end my affair after several attempts. It's been over three weeks since I've broken free and I feel so relieved and unburdened for the first time in a long time. I can sleep now, can look at my family without the horrible guilt hanging over my head. And I can look at myself in the mirror without self loathing. Suzie's wisdom and ability to effectively communicate that wisdom, is second to none. I will forever be grateful that I stumbled upon her website. My husband of 22 years and I are going through Passionate Monogamy and the Passionate Couple. We are very excited and are reconnecting in ways we never dreamed possible. Thank you for giving me the keys to freedom and helping me avoid making the biggest mistake of my life by leaving my husband and family. I now adopt a saying I heard Paul Newman say a long time ago about his own marriage "why would I settle for hamburger when I can have steak at home?". I am free. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!!
Suzie, There is a small chart I copied into my journal off of your website at the beginning of this dark journey. It contains 3 stages. I can't tell you how many times I have looked at that chart asking myself when I would get to stage 3- Learning and Acceptance? It seemed like I would never truly get there. In an odd twist of fate it was my trip to CA that gave me the final push. The first week, of my two week trip proved to be unpleasant and challenging at best. I wrestled my ego what seemed like minute by minute. It was mentally exhausting. And it was inside of one of the most impulsive things I have ever done that I found peace. Faced with having lived in CA for 10 years and never taking the opportunity to go see the Golden Gate Bridge, I made the decision to go at 5:00 pm Saturday night. As I made it to my destination and I stood on a hill top staring over the Bay area with the Golden Gate Bridge in my foresight (a life long dream of mine), I embraced that moment and felt so courageous for taking the opportunity to live freely in the moment. It was a reminder of missed opportunities and wasted time I will never get back. As silly as it may sound, something drastically shifted for me on that hill top. When I walked back into that office Monday morning to start my second week, the need to punish had vanished, and the battle with the ego had subsided. I can honestly say, I did nothing that I am ashamed of. I was respectful, courageous and compassionate. I showed mercy when the ego begged for punishment. For weeks, I had anxiously awaited what that final goodbye would look like, what would I say, what could I say? As she sat at my old desk, with my old job duties now proudly hers, I looked at her and I said "I forgive you". In that moment she started to cry and she cupped her face into her hands. I walked over to her and I gave her a hug. She sobbed in my arms for a moment and when I released her I said "now you are going to have to find a way to forgive yourself" and I walked out. I remember a session with you where you told me that mercy was such a bigger reward. This was that very moment. I can't even begin to tell you what happened to me on the hill top that day. I haven't been the same since. The need to punish and the constant obsessing is gone. It was like a realignment, not just inside of this particular journey but as a whole. The only thing that can even use to describe it, is the scene from the Grinch where his heart grows. It's as if out of my adversity there came an abundance. Thank you so much for your coaching along that way. I can't even begin to put into words the contribution you have made in my life. I will always value your guidance.
To anybody considering purchasing from Suzie Johnson's website... I just wanted to say that my husband and I are EXTREMELY happy with our GoAskSuzie home-study sessions. Suzie's programs are world-class. (Way beyond what we expected). And their support staff is very responsive and helpful. We are really opening up about our relationship and what has happened. We are really doing great! Honestly, it was devastating to me and hubby when he told me what he had done and could not see me being able to get over this betrayal... but it IS happening... and we are both "very grateful" for all of the insights we have gained from these sessions. Here are our favorite sessions so far: The Power of Passionate Monogamy, Return to Love & Intimacy, The Passionate Couple. We are really excited to keep going! Thank so much Suzie for what you have provided for us.
Your website has indeed inspired me and shown me the more mistakes I have made with my wife, in trying to rebuild our lovely marriage. It has shown me that reconciliation is a process not a destination and has assisted me to finally decide on which Wolfe in my heart I should feed. Thank you!
Thank you Suzie. Your Marriage Rehab course has been very helpful. Forgiving Infidelity was exactly what I needed. I am not a “self help” kind of person, and when I was blindsided by my husband’s affair (a year and a half after it was over) I didn’t want to confide in anybody. My husband and I decided to work through this together because we love each other very much. It’s a very personal thing, and we wanted to try this before we headed to a marriage counselor. I found it to be insightful and tactful. Again, thank you so much. Your site and coaching programs are wonderful resources!
I had another session with Suzie I want to get access to the Marriage Rehab for couples and she said that because I had already purchased several, credit could be given for those purchased and I could get a new total price from you on the whole set for my husband and I. As an aside, you guys are awesome. You have been more than kind when I have called and spoken with you, and your wife is an absolute gem. Suzie's programs and coaching have helped me more than I can ever explain and I am so happy that I found your service. I hope you have a wonderful weekend! Thanks so much!
Suzie...I'm just so, so, so grateful for you and the inspired work you do. I'm 29 days from discovery and NOT under the covers in crying inconsolably the fetal position partly owing to your loving and so helpful work. And that you offer a treasure trove of free resources is so loving and generous of you. The 14 questions for betrayed spouse is life-affirming. Thank you for offering the vision of achieving wholeness again and the tools to get there. Rich and abundant blessings to you.
I want to thank you again for "Graceful Exits". While each program has helped the subject of its title, "Graceful Exits" is astounding. I am the betrayed looking for answers and solace. "Graceful Exits" taught me so much about human nature that I feel equipped to really make a difference with my marriage and relationships in general. I now have better depth of understanding, compassion and will apply it to myself and family. It's as if the pieces of a puzzle are beginning to fit together. Thank you.
I just wanted to reach out and say thank you for this website. I am a partner in an affair that has been going on for two years. I have lost and sacrificed a lot for this much older man with the delusion that it was going to be something more. I left my husband, hurt my family and lost friends. I tried and tried so many times to break it off only to be weak and go back to the self deprecating cycle. I found it so hard to talk to my friends about it because I felt bad for breaking my promise when I would come to them crying and vowing that it was over. I felt foolish and alone. I am well educated and have a fantastic career but man, when it came to him I was weak. I stumbled across this website one night when I was fed up with the un-returned text messages. It felt like you knew exactly what I was thinking and feeling and just the right way to say the truth without making it negative. Tonight I told him that we need to stop talking. I am sure that he thinks I am being dramatic and that I don't actually mean it but it is my hope that this is it. I am far too young with too much to offer to waste another day on something I can't (and probably don't want to) have. I have KNOWN for a long time that this is nonsensical but getting the rest of me to go along with it has been a challenge. Again, thank you.
We want to share our story and let people know that Suzie's coaching and courses have been very very helpful to both of us. Twenty-three years of marriage to an exec who had a 3 1/2 year affair with a much younger woman at work. He wanted out after 2 years but thought I'd leave him if I found out so she manipulated him by saying she'd tell me and our children. She said she'd leave him alone if he'd give her a child, which he did (sounds ridiculous when spoken aloud). She told me in December via a text which she denied and then proceeded to tell our children two weeks later. My daughter had an amazing relationship with her father and she now can barely speak to him she's so angry. I am trying to get her to listen too but so far she is unwilling. I agreed to stay with my husband and I was stuck in a roller coaster of pain. He has done everything right since the minute I found out and I knew if I could let go of the pain we would have a very happy future, easier said than done. After listening to Suzie's session on forgiveness multiple times (while running, in car, on airplane) I feel as if my despair is gone and can see a happy future. Sorry for the whole story but while I'm sure all affair stories are very painful I feel as if the child, length of time of the affair, and the attack on my family was brutal and I had so much anger and hurt. The sessions are also helping my husband forgive himself. We have gotten through this alone (no one in our families know). We both did go to therapy but nothing has been as helpful as Suzie's sessions. Thanks again. We look forward to the future sessions with Suzie.
My name is Christine and I've been with my high school sweetheart for nine years. We got pregnant young and have had many challenges since. Both my husband and I come from broken families and have had little to no support with anything at all. I've had no one to turn to for advice. Your words have given me so much hope for the future. I recently told him I wasn't in love with him and feel terrible for it. I know our love is still there. Once again thank you for the work that you do I will continue to read your articles and remind myself who I can become. Thanks so much!
Thank you for this. I just ended an affair with a married man who I really at a point believed loved me and told me he was going to leave his marriage. But when it came to times I needed real results, he said he can't give me answers at this time. So I knew I had to leave. It lasted 7 months. But I before that, we were friends for over 10 years and it hurts. I ended it a few days ago and I was looking for support of course. This is one of the best things I've read. So I just want to say thank you.
I am so grateful for this site and this help. I can't wait to be a walking testimony of this program. I've already listened to "First Aid" twice and enjoyed my Quiet 10 last night. I'm now on step two of the Betrayed Recovery Home Study course. I am so thankful I found this program. Thank you so much! I can't even describe the help Suzie is to me!! I'm excited to keep going.
For all of the men out there who have stumbled across these words because you are thinking of having an affair or are in one now, this isn’t just by chance. You are here because you are supposed to be. If you love your wife and yourself and your family like I do, stop and think about what is real in your life and what you really want. It may be that you don’t know right now and that is okay but I promise you that if you talk to Suzie just once, you will have a different opinion about your wife and yourself and your life!
There is a world of things that make us think we have to be like or act like someone or something else but if you are ever going to be a man of independence and know your place in your world, educate yourself and find yourself. You will find honesty and forgiveness in yourself, your wife and even others.
The truth is hard but when you live transparently, you are truly a free soul and the best friend and husband. The day my wife learned the truth about my affair was the best worst day ever. It was the worst because there was so much pain in her eyes and heart. It was the best because it was the first day of our new life together. The pain is not gone but we handle it together openly and honestly. Inside of you is a man you may not even know yet but he is there and he is free and he is great. Suzie WILL help you find that man. I love her for guiding me through this crucial stage of my marriage and life and the best is yet to come! Thanks Suzie.
Dear Suzie, Thank you so much for your amazing coach session on Monday. You are one in a million. All I did was text my husband that I was wrong, I should have felt safe to talk to him about my affair. If he was hurting me it worked that I am one one time learner etc... Anyway, he is now moving back in, he told me he loved me (hadn't for months) and that everybody makes mistakes and that he will get over this. Oh thanks Suzie, you saved my marriage.:))
I can only say the sessions in Suzie's Marriage Rehab course have been nothing short of completely enlightening. We have been attending both couples counseling and one on one counseling and we have found Suzie's guiding principles to be a KEY component to our personal growth, our recovery and the growth of our relationship. Along with our love of each other, our willingness to try and our own efforts, Suzie's insights have given us the tools and knowledge to not only get through the storm, but to start visualizing and crafting a future in which we live differently in ourselves and in our relationships.
But, for us, Writing a list of specific needs, verbalizing them to ourselves and then to each other was key in allowing us to recognize our needs, understand them, understand how we felt when they weren't being met, understanding if they were genuine needs or those borne of fear based emotions and then understanding them in more of a global, less specific setting.
Since a big part of our problem was not understanding our own needs, not being okay with actually having them, compounded by not asking for those needs to be met, I hope to hear more on the subject from Suzie.
We have read many articles, a couple of books and probably close to everything on the internet on the subject in our efforts to learn how to "fix us" and Suzie seems to have taken the best of everything I have read and in a, very easy to digest away, distilled some very sound, sometimes seemingly obvious concepts and presented them in a way that is complete, succinct, relevant and most important usable.
One of the things Melinda and I have asked ourselves is why Suzie doesn't have programs for parents and their kids. The importance of being loyal to the truth is universal and should be instilled in children. It seems that many of the concepts apply to any relationships and quite frankly, should be applied to all relationships BEFORE the storm hits.
Her concepts are incredibly important not just in the storm, but as general personal growth concepts. I could ramble on for while, but I think you get the point! We have appreciated and enjoyed Suzie's programs greatly and found them to have been completely invaluable and we look forward to living a life of Passionate Monogamy. Thank you Suzie!
I'd just like to say that my husband and I have not experienced infidelity (yet), but as I read Suzie's articles, I could see that our marriage could easily head in that direction, if we do not make some changes. I was really drawn to the "infidelity proofing your marriage" concepts that Suzie speaks of. We are taking the approach of fixing things between us before it gets to infidelity, because all of the factors that lead to infidelity (passiveness, boredom, feeling in prison, etc.) is already there. Thank you, again
Suzie, This experience has been life-altering. You have given me a new perspective and have framed this even in a way that I was unable to do on my own. I woke again at 4:00 am (but) the first words that came to mind were... "Today, my heart is full of forgiveness." I love that man so much and I know that he is worth fighting for. Thank you for your wisdom, talent, charm, empathy & humor.
Dear Suzie! Just a quick note before heading to sleep to tell you HOW FABULOUS YOU ARE! WooooooOooooooW! Chapeau bas (in french Heads up) for your stunning approach... I am speechless with admiration! And YES today you made me believe again that Love and Perseverance can win over and over again! Words fail to thank you enough... Gratefully x 10000000000
First, let me start out by thanking you for your wonderful website and all of your helpful, healing programs. You have been a daily companion of mine for several months now. To give you a little background on our situation, my husband and I have been married 25 years. I discovered about 6 months ago that he was having an affair with a woman from work. I had absolutely no idea anything was even wrong. It had been going on for about two months when I found out. To say I’m devastated would truly be an understatement. Like one of the women you refer to in your programs, we were the couple everyone referred to as “the happy couple.” He is following all of your advice. He ordered the complete home study library when we found your website. He is remorseful, and being transparent and he’s convinced he will never do anything like this again. I have moments where I believe him and I can see a strong, happy future together and then something triggers for me and I don’t have any idea if he’s being real with me or not and I completely break down. I didn’t have any idea this could hurt so badly. The thing is, I love him. I’m terrified of being a doormat but at the same time, my life doesn’t feel natural without him in it. Married 25 years, we’ve basically grown up together. Thanks so much for everything. It’s quite possible you’ve actually saved me.
The day I discovered my husband had been cheating on me, was the day I thought my entire life was over. We had only been married for 7 months. The pure shock of that moment struck me like a bolt of lightning. Although the chances of being hit by lightning are much more slim. My first reaction was obviously: divorce. That's the only option at that moment, right? Well not exactly. After the initial bolt of electricity runs through your body you have to realize that you can survive after going through such a traumatic experience. You just can't go through it alone. You need someone like Suzie. Your life is not over, it's actually just begun. This intense current running through your bones can kill you if you let it. Don't. Fight. Fight the urge to just lay down and take it. Suzie showed me that the love I have for my husband, our marriage and our future was much stronger than all of this. Suzie's coaching and home study programs gave us the tools to pick up all the charred pieces and build something new again. Suzie's a miracle worker. Please trust her to do the same with you. She helped me rehabilitate after the jolt of my life.
My husband and I have gone through some together and I've done others alone...How To Infidelity-Proof Your Marriage, Standing in the Storm, How to Break Free from the Affair, Infidelity Recovery 101. Honestly they are all so good...we are amazed. We talk about Suzie like she's a friend or member of our family...first name basis! She has such wisdom. I find myself just laughing, shaking my head at times, amazed by her insight. Probably my favorites right now are How to Infidelity-Proof Your Marriage and How to Break Free. We are not stopping there though :) As to why, those both contain such poignant insights and very specific tips and 'to-dos'. I also find her compassionate approach to dealing with the Wayward partner so helpful, but she doesn't coddle. There is just so little out there to help those on that side. She respects the power of the affair in a way that helps you put it into perspective and then really grasp how to get out. There's more I could say. But my husband and I give Suzie credit for helping save our marriage.
Thank you Brad, The sessions really did help me a lot. I am now practicing to look to where my anger is pointing, and trying to not get caught up in obsessing in knowing answers to things that really have answers and do not heal. I am wrapping my mind and heart around trying to forgive.... myself, others in this, and others in my past.... as I am finding the process also leads me into childhood events as well. Thanks for everything. You and Suzie are angels!
Suzie, Thank you, thank you, thank you. I woke to the best morning I have had in well over a year. We have done such amazing work over the last 2 days. I can't wait for day 3. Your insight, knowledge and personality, along with your tools you have provided me, have shortened a very difficult journey. Thank you for the bonus... a new perspective in dealing with my relationship with my daughter.
I am so impressed with your quick response any time I’ve reached out to you. When my wife and I get through all the mess she’s created (and I believe we will) I would love to explore ways to help you get this information out to others in need. I found the site via a Google search and told my wife about it. She agreed to purchase your home study program for couples, only because I asked her to do so. She felt like she was in no position to argue against the purchase. However, once she began to play the home study sessions related to the “wayward partner” she found the information there life-changing. She told me a couple of days ago that it seems every other sentence or two contains something of great value for her. I, too, have found the sessions in the Marriage Rehab course to be a tremendous help. I just finished going through the “Healing the Hurt You Didn’t Deserve” for about the 10th time. My wife and I are going away this weekend. I’ve really struggled with anger these last couple of days so reviewing the “Healing the Hurt…” program this morning has helped. Suzie says that anger is a reaction to fear. I’ve thought a great deal about that and think I’ve pinpointed my greatest fear. I’m going to work on it today so we can have a great weekend together. Please tell Suzie how grateful we are for her insights and how much they have been helping us. And, again, thank you for your quick attention and help. P.S. Feel free to use this on the site. My prayer is that our testimonial would encourage others on this journey.
Please let Suzie know that she has changed my life completely. I have listened so many times that I can recite every single part word by word. Thanks so much! It has opened up a different world to me. In two weeks, I have already opened up two business that were on the back burner (due to the idiotic fantasies in my head). I do hope that other people can listen, I have tried to talk to other friends about it, but they are on denial. I hope it is not too late. God Bless and thanks.
Suzie, Thank you so much for your time and giving me the tools for my journey to neutral and internal peace. I'm so grateful for the universe for putting you in my path of healing. What amazed me the most was how quickly you not only understood me and my situation but how my mind was processing everything which then you were able to give me exactly what I needed. You were so easy to talk to as well. It's like I knew you! I went back to work after 5 weeks of being home and am not only putting the health issue behind me but also the situation that happened. It's like starting fresh with a new perspective on life. Please keep doing what you're doing, because you're absolutely amazing and are helping so many people like me who have no where else to go. I wish you and your family success, happiness and a lifetime of Love! With Deepest Gratitude
Dear Brad, Thank you for solving the issue with my email and helping me to find my Betrayed Partner program. I logged on successfully and have spent a good part of the afternoon soaking in the program. Perfect information at the perfect time.... Please let Suzie know I am truly grateful I am. Thank you!
Dear Suzie, Thank you for the insightful Coaching sessions from March through today. Your advice and thoughtful direction has been invaluable. I look forward to checking in as future months pass by to relay positive progress and to receive your continued successful strategies.
I discovered my husband was having an affair about 8 weeks ago we are committed to making our marriage work. We have been attending counseling for the last 4 weeks but we are getting more out of Suzie's articles and her home study programs than we have been with the counseling. We really appreciate how much she puts into to all of her work. Thank you. This has been a God send for us.
Suzie's Marriage Rehab home study program has been great. So many insights that we would have not thought of on our own. Thank you for having these out there to help us along this journey. Our goal is to make this the "best-worst thing" that has ever happened to us and with the help of the program, I see no reason why it won't be. Thanks again.
Just so you know your Betrayed Recovery coaching program is life changing for me and I'd like to do a session with Suzie... how do I do that?
The Marriage Rehab coaching sessions have been extremely helpful for both my husband and I so far. We have completed nearly all of our individual sessions and look forward to beginning the joint sessions now that we are both in a better place to do so. The most important takeaways for me so far have been learning how to remove the obstacles to forgiveness, learning how to overcome the fixated mind, and understanding that I am not a victim in this situation. It has been a blessing to have found these coaching sessions which provide a sense of hope for my husband and I, so that we can turn a negative situation into a positive one. Thank you all and keep up the great work!
I recently purchased your Wayward Rehab home study and have been listening to Suzie. She has been an incredible source of help and support. I am so thankful for her. Suzie saved me when I was completely hopeless and helpless. I now feel like I can do this and there is a light at the end of this tunnel. I not only feel like I can do it, I now know how. Thank you. My purchase was smooth and the programs easy to access.
First of all can I congratulate you and Suzie on a fantastic website and superb tools and resources. They are proving to be a great source of help and support. Secondly can I also congratulate you on such fantastic customer service.
As for the missing Quiet 10 session, it is not a problem for me at all. It really isn’t. It was just that I thought I was having a computer based issue and not able to access a file that I was led to believe was there. It was only because it was on the product description that I was looking for it. Since there isn’t actually one I can relax as it means I am not going mad or that my computer is not having issues.
As for your incredibly generous compensation offer, let me say thank you very much. However, there is no need to make such an offer (though I am very grateful and appreciative that you did make it). I appreciate that every session you offer is world class and very helpful but I wouldn’t dream of expecting such generous compensation over such a trivial matter. It was a minor mistake and it certainly did not diminish the whole experience you and Suzie have provided. Thanks once again.
Thank you so much for all you’ve done for us. I really don’t know if we could have gotten through these tough times without you and your programs. Brooke has been loving and nice to me and there have been no awkward discussions about the past. We are communicating much better at work and at home. She deserves a lot of praise. I’ve tried to do so all week. I know there’s still work to do, but I’m ready for it. It’s the first time in a long time I feel secure with myself and our relationship and it really feels like I’m living more in the moment and not so much in the past or future. I can’t say thank you enough... coach. :) As Brooke has said before, you truly are our angel. Have a great weekend!
Thanks so much Suzie. We have found your couples course we have reviewed so far to be VERY helpful and a "breath of fresh air" for both of us as we continue to try and figure out the best way to work through this. Up until now we have muddled our way through counseling, books, etc. and just have not seemed to be able to find a comprehensive approach that has helped make much of a difference for us so far. Finally, we have a sense of hope and direction. Thank you!
Hi Suzie! Thank you for your website. I am learning a lot and your articles give me peace of mind and re-kindle the Love in my heart. Suzie if you were in front of me I would hug you tight. So please pretend, receive my hug of thanks. I appreciate your approach. It makes every wounded psyche back to wholeness. Self respect is restored and forgiveness is on the horizon. Thank you again and your articles, for a lack of the better word right now, is to me, the best I've read. I still go back to your articles every day and every moment I get . Thank you so much. God bless you. Know that you are helping a lot of people, wounded or not. Hope to meet you in the future.
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