Three years ago, I had passionate sex with a married man (I’m also married). It was the kind of sex and attraction that was out of this world – one that left me craving for more. And so be it. We have caught up yearly since then. This made me fall for him even more… and he now tells me that he just can’t see me anymore because the guilt is killing him, but that I have left him with some very fond memories. Do you think he will be back for more?
Thank you for the opportunity to serve.
I admit, I am curious about the motive behind your question. For example, are you wondering if he will come back for more… based on the ego’s desire to be “irresistible”, and the proof being he simply “can’t help” but come back for more? Or are you wondering if he will come back for more because you want some closure? Since I can’t know for sure which it is for you, let’s take a look at both – starting with the ego’s desire to be irresistible.
Here’s the thing…
Sex within affairs can be extremely intense, exciting and exhilarating – like the first time you skydive. The forbiddances, the taboo, the fear of being caught – all play a part in producing a lot of adrenaline and other high octane type chemicals into the blood stream, mimicking the euphoric effects of a narcotic. And so, it’s no surprise to find that many people do in fact use affairs like a drug (to escape from reality), and many affair partners are seen like a drug dealer (supplying the pleasure).
Just like how narcotics can only create artificial highs (not real happiness), so do affairs. What it boils down to is this: pleasure and happiness…