Happiness After Infidelity
Overcoming Infidelity – The Power of True Forgiveness
THE INNER WALL OF RESISTANCE
I want to forgive. I just can’t.
If this has been your experience lately, rather than letting yourself feel unhappy, I want you to feel hopeful. Here’s why. The Inner Wall of Resistance is probably going to be your LAST barrier before love returns to your heart.
Here’s why this is.
That inner wall of resistance we sometimes experience is really just an ego defense. It's propped up by fear and false information.
What it tells us (in a very subtle way) is to be “proud” of our anger.
The ego is the voice for pettiness and unhappiness. It convinces us to put off peace, to deny forgiveness and to reschedule our own happiness. It say’s why be happy now – when there is so much you can be unhappy about?
It’s that little immature voice in all of us that whispers… "We get to feel special because we are the victim."
Even in fantasy the ego pushes images of revenge. It tries to convince us our power comes from punishing others.
Can you see how completely irrational this type of thinking is?
It’s wise to remember:
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EVERY THOUGHT IS A BOOMERANG.
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Whenever you are thinking hate – you are feeling it.
Whenever you are thinking fear – you are feeling it.
Whenever you are practicing unforgiveness – you are experiencing it.
So why not choose happiness NOW? Why put it off? Isn’t it what you want any way? And if you knew for sure that true forgiveness is the key that unlocks the door to the magic kingdom – wouldn’t you use it? Of course you would!
It only takes an instant of true forgiveness – to end a lifetime of pain.
And in case you're wondering why I'm using the phrase “true forgiveness” instead of just forgiveness...
Here’s the reason. There’s a difference between "true forgiveness" and “fake forgiveness”. One has the power to set you free. The other gives you the “illusion” of being free.
TRUE FORGIVENESS VS. FALSE FORGIVENESS
WHAT IS FALSE FORGIVENESS?
False forgiveness happens whenever a person comes from the position of, “I’m better than you.”
This is nothing but a temporary pardon granted to someone who has demonstrated the proper amount of remorse and supplication. As you can imagine, this is not genuine forgiveness.
True forgiveness can never be bought, sold or bargained for. It comes from an open, willing heart.
SO WHAT THEN, IS TRUE FORGIVENESS?
 True forgiveness is "inspired" by love.
It comes from the understanding that infidelity (along with any other injustice) is always a call for for love. This means - it calls for correction - not punishment. When people lie, cheat, steal, betray and "hurt each other" - it's always a misguided attempt to "get something" from the wrong source. This calls for compassion. NOT rejection.
Here’s another commonly asked question:
“How can I possibly forgive him (or her) after they were so deceitful, cruel and insensitive?”
Love is an act of endless forgiveness. You might think that by NOT forgiving. You send a  message to your partner that will make them feel so guilty, they would never do this again.
This is simply not true.
The reality is that guilt NEVER leads to correction. It only leads to resentment. And on the other hand... you might worry that if you forgive too quickly - it sends a message of... " Hey! I'm a sidewalk that you can walk all over anytime you want."
Again, this is not true.
As I have said before, forgiving doesn't absolve responsibility. For example: You can forgive a crime for a crime. But that doesn't mean you don't allow him or her to serve their time. Forgiveness frees you from bitterness. And more importantly, it turns on the light inside your heart, instantly dispelling pain, hurt, and darkness.
At the end of the day, the decision to forgive IS the decision to heal and overcome infidelity. The decision NOT to forgive is the decision to continue to suffer. Both decisions are yours to make.
Are you ready to turn things around?
Then forgiveness is your most powerful tool. It’s the master key that unlocks the doors to peace and personal power. The good news is... you don’t have to wait, delay or deny yourself any longer.
If you are ready to release the barriers to true happiness, if you are ready to release anxiety, conflict, pain, and hurt (even if you don’t know how) then you have already taken the first step. The “desire” to forgive IS the beginning of forgiveness. However, as important as this step is, the next step is even more important.
Are you ready to take the next step?
This step means actually forgiving. This is where you put down the cross, unhook the chains and set both the jailed (and the jailor) free. If you are ready to take this step, then I encourage you to book your free 45-minute consultation. There is no risk. There are no fees AND there’s a good possibility I can help you.
Can 45 minutes really make a difference? YES!
It only takes an instant to change your life. You show up ready and willing to learn. I show up ready and willing to transfer knowledge. It’s as simple as that. Of course, if you want to work with me further, you will be given the opportunity to do so. That’s totally up to you. We can continue to work together OR you can go it on your own. Either way, I will be rooting for you. I know you can have everything you want and more.
Until we speak again,
Remember... love wins!
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